Spiritual Ego
Hakann trough A. S.
Posted on December 21 , 2024
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My dearest brothers and sisters,
This is Hakann speaking. I greet you in peace and love.
As I shared last week: Earth humans are an exceptional group, and as Earth humans who have at least partially woken up, you are an exceptional group within that exceptional group.
You are not perfect, but you are amazing, and you are good enough, and you are fully worthy of love, as you are right now.
Now, one issue that many partially awakened people struggle with is having a slight spiritual ego. Most spiritual people don’t have an extreme spiritual ego, but most spiritual people do have a slight spiritual ego.
Spiritual ego is when a person has an unrealistically high opinion of themselves due to their spirituality.
It is not spiritual ego to have a realistic opinion of yourself and to acknowledge your skills and qualities and abilities and knowledge.
You don’t need to brag about your skills to others, but you should quietly acknowledge them to yourself.
For example, it is not spiritual ego to think that you are more spiritually advanced than the average person on Earth is, because indeed you are if you are tuning in to messages like these.
A person who makes a show out of being very humble may in fact have a form of spiritual ego, because it’s entirely possible that they secretly have an unrealistically high opinion of themselves, and that’s why they make a show out of being very humble.
Alternatively, if a person genuinely has an unrealistically low opinion of themselves, then that’s not spiritual ego but it is another kind of distortion. The world needs your light: it is not a virtue to keep your light dimmed, or to refuse to acknowledge that it is there.
So it is healthy to have a realistic opinion of yourself. That means acknowledging that you are better at spirituality and at certain things than most people, while also acknowledging that some non-spiritual people may have qualities and skills that you do not have.
And it means that you acknowledge that while you are better at spirituality than the average person, that doesn’t mean that you are a better person than them, or that you are more valuable than other people. All roads lead back to Source, after all, and you are not better than another person who is choosing to take a longer route back to Source.
Having a realistic opinion about yourself also means that you don’t automatically assume that everyone else around you is less spiritually advanced than you are. A person with spiritual ego often assumes that everyone who has another perspective is spiritually inferior to them, and needs to receive education or healing or they need to do inner work.
Often a person with spiritual ego will express this in a superficially loving, but actually quite condescending way. If you present a substantive argument to a person with spiritual ego on why you think they’re wrong about something, they probably will not answer with a substantive counterargument, or with an “agree to disagree” statement. Instead they might express that they used to think like that, but now they are more evolved. Or they might say that they are a reflector or a mirror and that it’s their nature to bring up unresolved stuff in other people.
Or they might say that you should work through your triggers (even if you’re not actually triggered). Or they might say that they hope that you will find healing or find a proper path. Or they might tell you that you need to read some book in order to educate yourself. Or they might say “it’s okay if you can’t understand this.” Or they might say that only people who vibrate at a high enough frequency will see the truth in their statement. Or they might say “I don’t do this, it only seems that way to you” when in fact they clearly are doing the thing that is being pointed out.
Or they might claim that all their words are always rightly guided or are always channeled or are always for the highest benefit of everyone involved. However they won’t believe that the words of other people are divinely guided or channeled or are for people’s highest benefit.
Or they might say that because something resonates with them, or because their guides or intuition say something, everyone else should consider that thing to be objectively proven. Meanwhile if someone else says that it doesn’t resonate with them, or that their guides or intuition disagree, then that isn’t considered valid proof of anything.
So these are all ways in which someone with spiritual ego expresses that they are better than the other person, without ever making an actual substantive argument for why they are right in this case or why they are more spiritually advanced. And they’re doing it in a sneaky enough way that they don’t appear unspiritual to a casual onlooker.
To be clear, expressing public disagreement with someone else, using substantive arguments, is fine. You don’t have to do that, but you can, and it doesn’t indicate the presence of a spiritual ego. People can learn from substantive debates, including onlookers who aren’t directly participating in the debate. This is how good ideas are spread and bad ideas are discredited. If no one ever publicly disagrees with anyone else, bad ideas can spread far too widely.
So as we’ve seen, if you disagree with a person with spiritual ego, they will typically respond in a subtly-condescending, non-substantive way. A person without a spiritual ego can respond in a variety of ways, or even not respond at all, but they won’t respond in a subtly-condescending way.
A person who says that they are learning from literally everyone they come across may be in spiritual ego, because that’s almost certainly not actually true, and hence they’re expressing an unrealistically high opinion of themselves. A spiritually healthy person will learn from certain people, and not learn from others. Some people will have valuable lessons to teach you, and others will not.
Now, an issue here is that people with a spiritual ego may falsely believe that they in fact do have a realistic opinion of themselves, and it’s simply the objective truth that they are more spiritually advanced than pretty much everyone else.
Most likely you cannot cure someone else of their spiritual ego.
If you yourself think that you are more spiritually advanced than pretty much everyone else, well, do you regularly feel a profound sense of peace? Do other people love being around you because your presence just feels wonderful to them? Are lots of other people regularly complimenting you on your words and telling you that they are benefiting from what you are saying and writing? Only if you answered yes to all three question, then you may indeed be near the spiritual top of Earth. But even that’s not ultimate attainment; one fully enlightened and fully Source-aligned Earth human could and probably would free the planet single-handedly.
Next up, let us look at certain flavors of spiritual ego. People may have one, several or none of the following flavors of spiritual ego:
DUNNING-KRUGER SPIRITUAL EGO
This is a person who is relatively new to spirituality. A short while ago they had their first insight, or their first really good meditation experience, or they recently discovered a spiritual principle that they really resonate with.
Because of this, the person with Dunning-Kruger spiritual ego will think they are much more advanced than they actually are, because they do not yet have enough knowledge or wisdom to understand just how much they don’t yet know about spirituality.
Here is the Dunning-Kruger graph: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_Effect_01.svg . A person suffering from the Dunning Kruger effect is on the small hill to the left, characterized by a lack of competence due to newness, and an incredibly high confidence.
People with Dunning-Kruger spiritual ego may talk as if their insight is the one true insight that everyone else needs to learn, and every other perspective is inferior. When in reality, their insight is probably just one valuable perspective out of many. And more experienced spiritual people will likely have learned that principle long ago, and now it’s just one valuable perspective out of many to them.
A person with Dunning-Kruger spiritual ego might act like any sort of real-world or practical perspective is a 3D perspective and therefore bad, while their very high and not practically applicable perspective is the one sole truth of the universe.
A person with Dunning-Kruger spiritual ego might have recently started following some kind of guidance or intuition, and may falsely believe they are the only person to do so, and may therefore believe they’re some kind of spiritual master who everyone should listen to. When in reality, lots of people receive guidance or have intuition.
Moreover, even if a person sometimes receives genuine guidance, then typically that doesn’t mean that every single action they take and every single word they say is coming from that guidance. More likely they only receive and then follow that guidance occasionally, and probably the rest of the time they are just being driven by their emotions and their subconscious. Which might be quite fallible.
Also, people are guided based on where they currently are. So if a person is being guided to meditate for ten minutes per day, that doesn’t prove that ten minutes of meditation per day is the one and only true spiritual practice that everyone should follow. Obviously this is a silly example, but people with Dunning-Kruger spiritual ego really might falsely believe that a path that is good for them, is the one true path that everyone should follow.
If this person then follows their guidance and indeed meditates for ten minutes, this doesn’t prove that they are a spiritual master who is living non-stop in alignment with their guidance. It just means that they got personalized advice based on where they were at the time, and they followed that advice. That’s all.
Obviously treat everyone with love, and definitely also treat someone like this with love, because likely they’re not malicious. Likely they’re just new to the spiritual field. And it’s entirely possible that they will grow out of this as they become more experienced.
LOVE ME SPIRITUAL EGO
This is a person who wants love and compliments and validation from other people. Therefore, they may engage in performative spirituality. They might adopt a spiritual persona and put on a theatrical act to show others how spiritually advanced they are.
This person is probably spiritual in an unoriginal way, because after all they’re putting on a subconscious act of what they think a spiritually advanced person looks like. So they’ll repeat whatever the current spiritual trends are. They’ll say things that make them look spiritually advanced to the average spiritual person. But they probably won’t say anything that is insightful and original.
Whereas a spiritual master is probably original in some way: they may have some new teaching, they may have a subtle disagreement with a respected existing teaching, they may present themselves in an unconventional way, they may have an unconventional focus, et cetera.
A spiritual master may say or do or advocate for things that don’t immediately appear as the highest and most spiritually advanced thing to the average person. The master doesn’t care, because he isn’t interested in impressing the crowd, unlike the person with “love me” spiritual ego.
A “love me” spiritual ego person may seem to have an entire personality that only revolves around being spiritually advanced. Meanwhile an actually spiritually advanced person is more complex and is a more multifaceted person.
A person with “love me” spiritual ego likely dresses in a way that makes them look spiritual. A person without spiritual ego won’t necessarily dress in a stereotypically spiritual way — although they might still dress like that if they happen to like that kind of clothing.
A person with “love me” spiritual ego may say things that make others look less spiritually advanced than themselves. This way, the “love me” spiritual ego person gets a larger share of the group’s appreciation and respect. So for example, they might say in a sneaky and roundabout way that because someone else reacted emotionally to something, that proves they aren’t very spiritually advanced.
Meanwhile a spiritually advanced person won’t personally attack others, but they may attack what they consider to be wrong or unhelpful ideas, using substantive arguments. After all, doing that is actually a service to others or a service to the public, if it’s done by someone who knows what they are talking about.
People with “love me” spiritual ego may believe in spiritual principles that are clearly illogical or are clearly stated in an exaggerated form, just because those principles sound emotionally pleasant and empowering. People with “love me” spiritual ego may be excessively focused on “love and light” and on things that feel good. They may be in resistance to reasonable disagreements or unpleasant truths.
If you tell a person with “love me” spiritual ego that you think they are wrong about something or that they have some unresolved issue or that they’re not being reasonable or genuine, then that person might internally freak out. They may become angry or hostile or condescending or perhaps break off contact with you permanently – while putting on a show and responding in a seemingly spiritually advanced way.
So let’s say a person with “love me” spiritual ego is putting on a performative spirituality show. And if you point out that they’re not being genuine and are perhaps being condescending in some way, it’s entirely possible that they won’t self-reflect, or have a conversation about it with you, or just say they disagree. Instead they might inform you that they simply no longer resonate with you but that you are a great person and they wish you all the best in the world. And then they might never speak to you again.
To be clear, it’s not inherently wrong to say that you no longer resonate with something or someone.
However, the vast majority of spiritual people are merely at the point where what resonates with them is usually good and truthful, and what doesn’t resonate with them is merely usually bad or false. Few spiritual people are at the point where what resonates is always good and truthful, and what doesn’t resonate is always bad or false.
So there are spiritual people who avoid looking within by simply saying that they don’t resonate with the person making the argument and then ignoring the actual argument being made.
The words “I don’t resonate” can certainly be used properly, but sometimes the person saying those words isn’t actually being driven by intuition or guidance. Sometimes they’re simply being driven by emotion, and are saying “it doesn’t resonate” to avoid self-reflection or self-observation.
What emotionally feels good isn’t always true or beneficial. What emotionally feels bad isn’t always false or bad. And focusing on things that emotionally feel good, and avoiding things that emotionally feel bad, isn’t always the best thing to do — even if it’s dressed up in spiritual language such as “keeping your vibration high”, “this resonates and that doesn’t”, et cetera.
Most people, including most spiritual people, are more often being driven by emotion than they are aware of. And emotions are often self-protecting or self-serving in some way, rather than being concerned with what’s actually true.
If someone who isn’t a spiritual master says “this doesn’t resonate” or “this doesn’t feel good”, then other people understand that it’s not objective truth that that thing or idea is universally bad. People understand that a sort of subjective statement is being made. Well, similarly, if you’re not a spiritual master yourself, then what resonates with you and what feels good to you also is probably a mostly-accurate indicator, but not an always-accurate indicator.
MAINTAIN STATUS SPIRITUAL EGO
If a person has a certain spiritual status in the eyes of others, they may feel the need to engage in performative spirituality to maintain that status.
For example, a spiritual teacher may feel the urge to constantly present themselves in a way that makes them look spiritually advanced to other people. They do this to maintain their status and their position and perhaps their income.
Or a person who has a relationship with a somewhat judgmental spiritual partner may feel the urge to present themselves in a spiritual way.
Or someone who is a member of a spiritual community or spiritual group may feel an urge to keep up appearances.
This can cause a person to make claims like “I don’t have an ego” or “I don’t judge” when clearly they still do. They might say “I am not invested in the outcome” when clearly they are. Or the person might claim to be objective and unbiased when they clearly aren’t. Or a person might claim that every waking moment of theirs is a magical experience, or some other hyperbole like that.
Or a person may claim that they are one hundred percent grateful for something awful that happened to them, because they learned from it and it made them who they are. When in reality, probably some part of them is genuinely grateful for it, and some other part of them is still hurt about it or wished it hadn’t happened.
A person may be consciously or subconsciously trying to maintain their status in this way.
They can consciously decide to only share happy and fun and positive things, and not ever talk about painful or difficult things.
Or they might subconsciously reason: “well I wouldn’t be a very good spiritual teacher if I had that flaw. Therefore I can’t have that flaw, because I am a good spiritual teacher.” So basically, this spiritual teacher refuses to look at any part of themselves that isn’t or doesn’t look spiritually advanced. They feel that spiritual teachers can’t have certain flaws, and so they refuse to acknowledge any hint of those flaws in themselves, even if they’re there.
That said, this is understandable to an extent, because spiritual teachers often rely on being a spiritual teacher for their income. This means that their income depends on putting on a show of performative spirituality — because most people do in fact get fooled by that. And many people do in fact stop listening to a spiritual teacher if that spiritual teacher admits to having certain flaws or struggles.
MAINTAIN SELF IMAGE SPIRITUAL EGO
This is a person who has only received conditional love. They only received love if they were good enough in some way.
As a result, they only love themselves if they judge themselves to be good enough.
So this person will love themselves if they are spiritually advanced, and they don’t love themselves if they’re not sufficiently spiritually advanced.
As a result, this person has an unrealistically high opinion about themselves. Because that’s what they need to be able to love themselves.
Obviously this person, like everyone else, deserves love and compassion.
On the other hand, it can be quite frustrating to deal with this person. For example, this person may clearly judge you, but then tell you that they don’t judge, and that there’s something wrong with you if you think they are judging you.
They may declare that everyone is perfect just as they are, but then they clearly judge other people, and then deny that they are judging other people. Even though they’re clearly doing so.
Why are they acting like this? Well, they’ve told themselves that spiritually advanced people don’t judge, and they feel they can only love themselves if they are spiritually advanced. So they have to believe they’re not judging others, even if they clearly are doing so, in order to maintain their self image. This can lead them to having an out-of-control shadow and them gaslighting the people around them.
Another form of “maintain self image” spiritual ego is someone who thinks that they don’t have any inner parts that are unevolved, are in pain, are conflicted, et cetera. They pretend that they have healed all their wounds and integrated all their inner parts. They may tell you that they USED to have certain unresolved issues in some way, but that’s always in the past, and today they’re completely aligned. But then if you watch this person act, it usually becomes obvious that they do in fact have certain inner parts that are in pain or aren’t aligned.
“Maintain self image” spiritual ego people may be quite judgmental in a subtle and subconscious way, because if they don’t accept certain things in themselves they may also not accept these things in others. In fact they might subconsciously try to help others in a perverse way: “don’t be X, because if you’re X then you’re not good enough and not worthy of love.” Or “you should be Y, because if you’re Y then you’re good enough and worthy of love.” It’s almost like they’re trying to force their religious dogma onto you.
A person with “maintain self image” spiritual ego will nudge you to suppress so-called bad thoughts or emotions, for example by telling you to raise your vibration, or by saying that if you focus on something bad then it grows or negative things then manifest. They might say that your thoughts and feelings create your reality, therefore you should focus on thinking and feeling positive things. In this way they imply that you should suppress so-called bad thoughts or emotions.
Meanwhile, a spiritually advanced person will nudge you to observe everything that arises in you, including so-called bad thoughts and emotions. Because that’s actually the way in which you let go of these things, over time.
Whereas if you suppress so-called negative thoughts or emotions, they will still affect what manifests in your life from your subconscious. Your subconscious affects your reality and manifestations too, so suppressing things and focusing on positive thoughts and feelings doesn’t actually help.
If a person wants to help strangers in a way that violates their free will, that may be a “maintain self image” spiritual ego person, because it is a kind of power trip and self-image boost for them.
“Maintain self image” spiritual people may have a savior complex. They may be excessively emotionally invested in making sure that everyone hears their words.
They may have the tendency to give unsolicited advice excessively often — usually that should only be done if you’ve listened extensively to that person first and are very sure that you’re coming from a good place and have good advice.
Substantively disagreeing with bad ideas is fine, pointing out that people are being condescending is fine, but unsolicited advice is usually (though not always) unhelpful.
In an ideal world, the person with “maintain self image” spiritual ego would receive enough unconditional love that they realize they are already worthy of love, as they are right now, even if they have certain flaws.
SO, WHAT SHOULD I DO?
So, what should you do? Well, observe what arises in you. Be honest and authentic. Have an accurate self-image, where you view yourself as neither more accomplished nor less accomplished than you actually are. Have opinions, but at the same time realize that they might be wrong or that a more enlightened person than yourself might look at things differently. Accept the possibility that on certain points others may be right and you may be wrong.
If you don’t know a lot about a topic, listen. If you do know a lot about a topic, it’s still important to listen, but then don’t be afraid to speak and to publicly disagree with unhelpful ideas, using substantive arguments.
Now, it’s entirely understandable that many people have a spiritual ego, because most people haven’t received all the love and nourishment and care that humans need. Really, the amount of love that a human needs to function optimally is much larger than you probably think, and probably you haven’t nearly received that amount of love in your life.
Your scientists say that it is healthy to have five or ten or even twenty warm interactions with someone for every negative interaction you have with them. A warm interaction might be giving someone a compliment, or spending quality time with them, or giving them a hug, or joking with them in a friendly manner.
Now, how many people give five or ten or twenty compliments (or similar) for each time they criticize the other person, or point towards something they should work on? Not many. Hence, it makes sense that many people feel underloved and underappreciated.
Now, criticizing someone, or pointing to something they should work on, is sometimes the absolutely correct thing to do. But it can also come from a place of ego, from a place of thinking you know better than the other person, from a place of wanting control, or from a place of thinking the other person is a fool who is lost without your help.
Indeed, while some people may feel inclined to often criticize others or point out flaws in them, people very rarely want to be on the receiving end of that. People rarely want others to criticize them or point out flaws in them, except for times when it’s urgent or very necessary or when the time is very ripe.
And indeed, that isn’t just vanity. People are actually correct in feeling that it’s best for them if other people are usually loving and complimentary towards them and only occasionally criticize them or point out flaws in them.
This channeler regularly interacts with a Pleiadian outside of the context of channeling. She sees that the channeler is already growing and progressing and finding his own way, and that his own system is nudging him towards healing and that his guides are nudging him towards truth and further growth, at the appropriate pace. And this is true for many people, it’s not just true for this channeler.
So nearly every interaction she has towards him is warm and affectionate and complimentary and loving and appreciative. Almost never (but not literally never) is she pointing out flaws or things he could work on. Even though there is certainly stuff she could point out.
Her approach is actually more beneficial for his growth than if she would have been more critical, because being loved is a need that humans have, and this way he is getting that need met. And his own system and his own guides are already nudging him towards truth and healing and growth — he doesn’t need another person to point out flaws, except in rare circumstances.
Most people already know plenty of domains they could self-improve in. What they lack isn’t knowledge of things they could work on, instead they lack the metaphorical resources to work on those things to a large extent. And by being loving towards someone, you give them more resources to develop themselves with. Sure they might spend those resources slightly differently than you would, but that’s their free-will choice to make.
If you value someone, trust them to find their path.
But, yes. To tie this all together: most people are underloved. And so it makes sense that people behave in spiritually egoic ways to try and get more love and appreciation. Especially because people on Earth aren’t getting the support or recognition or community that they deserve.
At the same time, having a spiritual ego can hinder your spiritual growth and can stand in the way of making healthy connections. And it can also seriously annoy the people around you. Because it’s not fun to be around someone who is being inauthentic and condescending and i8s perhaps even gaslighting you.
So, I would like to invite you to be aware of spiritual ego, and to keep observing what arises within. If you detect some spiritual ego within yourself, that is entirely understandable. In fact many people have a spiritual ego to at least a slight extent. Just observe it and it should weaken over time, and try to be fair in your words and actions. You’re never bad for having certain thoughts or emotions; it is only needlessly hurtful words and actions that are bad.
I hope this was helpful. I love you very much.
