Showing posts with label frustrated. Show all posts
Showing posts with label frustrated. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 6, 2025

What to Do When You’re Triggered

What to Do When You’re Triggered

By Leo Babauta

Posted on May 6, 2025


Whether it’s personal relationships, rude people, or crazy things happening in the world … we all get emotionally triggered sometimes. We get frustrated, angry, hurt, shut down, and so on.

The question isn’t “will I ever get triggered?” … it’s “what can I do when I get triggered?” This will be a quick guide.

The first thing is to notice that you’re triggered — your nervous system is activated and you’re upset. A lot of people don’t notice. They just take action in an angry or panicky way, which doesn’t usually lead to the best outcomes. So if you can notice you’re triggered, you’ll be able to do something about it rather than being on autopilot.

Second, take a moment to pause. That might mean taking a moment to just sit still and breathe. Or if you’re in an argument with someone, take a time out for a bit. Get out of the situation if possible. If that’s not possible, then take a few deep breaths.

Third, deepen and slow the breath. This might sound obvious to some, but it’s notable that few people actually practice this when they’re triggered, because in that moment of nervous system activation, we forget. So take a moment and slow down the breath. Deepen it into the belly instead of just the upper chest (shallow breathing). This slower, deeper breathing will shift your nervous system out of fight-or-flight mode into a calmer mode.

Fourth, notice you’re caught in a narrative and probably an overreaction. You’re likely caught up in habitual thoughts about the other person, about yourself, or about the situation. “Why do they always have to do that?” and other thoughts like that. There’s nothing wrong with this narrative/thought pattern, but it’s probably an old pattern from long ago, and might not be the most helpful for you. Just realizing this is huge. It’s also good to realize that you’re likely reacting from some hurt from years past, and reacting from hurt is often an overreaction. There’s nothing wrong with overreacting when we’re hurt, but just realizing it is important.

Validate your feelings but don’t let them rule. Your feelings are your feelings — you’re not wrong for feeling them. Instead of telling yourself you shouldn’t be overreacting or you shouldn’t be upset … try acknowledging and validating your feelings. You can do that by just saying to yourself, “I’m upset. I’m hurt. And that’s OK, it makes complete sense to feel this way.” If you do that, you’ll allow your feelings to feel seen and acknowledged, and they can calm down a bit.

Find a healthy way to process your emotions and take a calmer action. Sometimes it can help to go for a walk, to vent to someone, to do some exercise to get the energy out, to scream into a pillow, or to soothe yourself. Once you’ve processed those emotions (don’t ignore them if you can), then find a calm action that will help yourself or the situation. For example, taking responsibility and apologizing can often help. Or sharing your feelings in a vulnerable way. Or speaking clearly but calmly about your boundaries. Or leaving the situation. What would be most helpful to everyone involved?

Leo Babauta
Zen Habits


Thursday, December 19, 2024

Prepare For The Solstice

Prepare For The Solstice

By Dr Schavi M Ali

Posted on December 18, 2024





On Saturday, December 21st, 2024, the season of winter will officially arrive in the Northern Hemisphere while summer will begin in the Southern Hemisphere.

Above and below the planetary equator, different seasons occur but at the same time.

This can be likened to how human collective levels of consciousness work.

While some persons are dealing with shadowy, gloomy, cold emotions, others are hopeful, warm, and loving as they move through life’s experiences.

Everyone has times when they are perhaps depressed or frustrated by certain personal, national, or international situations.

However, those who truly try to remain centered in SOURCE LIGHT realize that LIGHT often comes from darkness, and that in fact, the term “GURU” translates as “Bringer of LIGHT from darkness”.

Times of personal or national or global turmoil are also times to connect more profoundly with the HIGHER SELF which is SOURCE FREQUENCY always ready to guide us.

Thus, it serves as our “GURU”. Therefore, as strange as it may seem, darkness has a purpose.

It forces humanity to ask such questions as: “How did humanity slip into such chaos, confusion, ignorance, hatred, greed, and disrespect for Nature?” “How can dire circumstances be rectified?” “Has humanity’s CHOICE POINT been removed, and now must there be a consequence paid that cannot be avoided?”

Study can be engaged in to answer the first question because human errors in thought, word, and deed reach back over many eons of time.

The answer to the second question can be found by reading the holy books of all Divinely- revealed spiritual paths. Such reading will answer the third question as well.

Whether we live in the regions of Earth that are becoming colder or whether we live where temperatures are beginning to become warmer, this is the SOLSTICE in both places.

The word “SOLSTICE” translates as “SUN STANDING STILL” and is derived from two Latin language terms — “Sol” (“Sun”) and “Sistere” (“To Stand Still”).

Thus, on the day of the “SOLSTICE”, the Sun of our galaxy is stilled as light in one hemisphere and darkness in the other hemisphere are equalized.

Then, day by day, for a miniscule of seconds, the Sun in the Northern Hemisphere rises in light — and ancient Astronomers called this “THE SUN COMING OUT OF ITS CAVE” — while in the other hemisphere sunlight seems to decrease.

By mid-June each year, the Summer Solstice and the Winter Solstice heralds the Sun’s rising in the North while becoming less bright in the South as just mentioned.

Yet, in both hemispheres, the Sun is actually always shining. We are never totally without sunlight. There is only a perception of its lacking.

Each day, recite the prayer that was offered in yesterday’s article regardless of the seasonal changes in the hemispheres.

With human experiences on a collective level all over the planet not being ideal due to so much conflict in varying ways, there must be a “CONCERT OF CONSCIOUSNESS” whereby we all — regardless of our individual paths — “sing” the same “song” whose melody is comprised of peaceful and loving “notes of sound”.

As the ionosphere, the atmosphere, and all other spheres “hear” the “song” of all the Earth, our planet and all creation upon “Her” can relax, heal, and more easily receive SOURCE LIGHT for the collective re-birth.

“Be still and know that I am God!” (HOLY BIBLE).
“Whoever takes one step towards me, I come to them running” (HOLY QU’RAN).
“GOD is LOVE and LIGHT” (EMERALD TABLET).”
“Aham Bustami” (“I am awake”)—Gautama Buddha.


Dr Schavi M Ali

 
 

Monday, August 28, 2023

Have Compassion for the Sleepers

Have Compassion for the Sleepers

Tunia via channel A. S.

Posted on August 5, 2023

 


My dearest brothers and sisters,

This is Tunia speaking. I love you so very much.

A number of lightworkers are frustrated that the sleepers aren’t waking up fast enough yet. I understand this frustration completely: the awake have done their work to wake up, and now they are being held back and mocked and censored by those who haven’t done their own work. It’s true that if more people had woken up, things would be proceeding more quickly.

With the sleepers, I mean those people who still largely believe in the narrative from the corporate mainstream media.

Still, while it’s entirely valid to feel frustrated with the sleepers, today I would like to invite you to simultaneously have a degree of compassion for them. Yes, it’s possible to be able to see both perspectives at the same time. If you want a metaphor, you can think of it as being able to see the frustration that the awake have with the sleepers through one pair of metaphorical glasses, and through another pair of metaphorical glasses you can see that it’s at the same time appropriate to have compassion for the sleepers.

Recently the channeler listened to a song from Dutch singer Froukje Veenstra. The song is titled “groter dan ik” (bigger than I) and here is the English translation of its opening:

 

Happy new year
The world is burning
And I want to put out the fire
But the fire is bigger than I am
And I’m choking on
the time, time ticking
the time, it just ticks on

 

I think this is a very apt description of how the sleepers are feeling right now. I would like to thank Froukje for her vulnerability and her bravery to express this.

This song was released during covid times, but I think that to a lesser extent many sleepers still feel like this, deep down. And the sleepers are prioritizing comfort and normalcy because they’re in a bit of a suppressed panic and they don’t feel in control and they’re trying to get some psychological comfort through believing the corporate media and through calling the awake “conspiracy theorists.” Yes, in one sense they shouldn’t do that, but in another sense many of them are in a psychological survival mode. Even normally-moral and normally-rational people don’t tend to be as concerned with morality and rationality when they’re in survival mode.

As an extreme example: if you starve someone enough, they may start eating other human beings. Obviously they shouldn’t do that, and obviously this is a hyperbolic comparison, but the point still stands that perfectly-fine people can do some crazy things if they’re in survival mode.

When you realize that many of your sleeping brothers and sisters are in this state of slight panic and confusion and semi-depression and helplessness and psychological survival mode… then don’t you also feel a sense of compassion for them?

I certainly do.

If the sleepers try to censor you, well of course I’m against censorship… but I still have compassion for the people trying to do the censoring, because they’re in pain or fear or delusion. They wouldn’t be trying to censor others if they weren’t. In general people only treat other people poorly if they’re in pain or delusion themselves. They wouldn’t do it otherwise.

In fact, a whole lot of dysfunctional and close-minded behavior in general is simply due to people being overwhelmed and underappreciated and scared and tired.

A lot of Earth humans call people objective and unbiased if they agree with them politically, and call people biased if they disagree with them politically. Looking at this from the outside, this makes little sense, because that’s not what those words mean. If you look at a dictionary, biased isn’t defined as “has another political opinion than myself.”

However this makes more sense if you realize that many people are so overwhelmed that they just desire comfort and rest and better living conditions, and they think that they can achieve this if only the opposite political side can be convinced or silenced.

Or to put it another way: not all but much of Earth’s mainstream politics is two sides of somewhat desperate, lonely, disconnected, fearful, struggling people thinking that they can’t be safe until they convince or silence or depower the other side. Only once the other side is convinced or silenced or depowered will they stop feeling so lonely and disconnected and will stop having to struggle so much.

From our perspective, it would be more rational for people to work on raising the consciousness of themselves and thereby all of humanity first. Because frankly, there is no really great political solution that can be found at the current level of consciousness. The left is right that implementing the right’s political vision doesn’t produce great outcomes at the current level of consciousness, and the right is right that implementing the left’s political vision doesn’t produce great outcomes at the current level of consciousness. However, good political solutions are available with a relatively small amount of higher consciousness, because higher consciousness is infectious. Raising the consciousness of humanity to the point where good political solutions become available doesn’t have to take that long.

This idea of “raise your own consciousness first before spending a lot of time engaging in politics” is just a specific application of our more general suggestion: “raise your own consciousness first before spending a lot of time trying to change the outside world.”

Similarly, if something triggers you or generates so-called negative emotions in you, it’s better to look inside first, before you look outside for someone to judge or blame.

Now yes, the world does need high-consciousness political actors (whether politicians or people who organize protests). It’s not unspiritual to engage in politics. After all, politics is just the way on Earth through which most societal decisions get made, so if you try to accomplish things or speak out against certain kinds of dysfunction, then it quickly becomes political whether you like it or not. You can’t avoid that if you want to achieve change beyond the individual level. Personally, Hakann and myself don’t have any resistance to making political statements whenever we think it appropriate. That said, we have done our own inner work first.

If someone feels called to spend a lot of time engaging in politics, then we’ve established they should work on themselves first, however at which point in their development should they start spending a lot of time engaging in politics? It depends on the person, but in general: have your own needs met (which will probably include having a pretty good life and a good relationship and good mental health). Have some experience in the real world (politicians who have never worked a regular job in their life tend to be disconnected from reality). Be close enough to unity consciousness that you understand that all other humans (and ideally, animals as well) are to some extent part of you. Also understand both political sides well enough that you are able to make an argument for the other political side that people of that political side would call a good argument — you don’t have to agree with the other political side, but you should understand them. Understanding the other political side doesn’t just make it likely that your policy proposals will be better, it also means that you’ll be better at convincing other people.

Most activists don’t satisfy these criteria. Most politicians don’t satisfy these criteria. Most people fiercely debating online don’t satisfy these criteria.

And hence, lots of political debate is on the surface level about immigration policy or tax policy or something like that. But underneath, it’s often two people saying to each other: “you need to either change your opinion or shut up, so that us civilized people can be safe and have a good life. You being on your current political course means that us civilized people can’t have a good life.”

Naturally, such discussions aren’t productive.

So, it’s good to work on yourself first before spending a lot of time engaging in politics. It’s also good to have compassion for other people, including the sleepers, including the people with the so-called wrong political opinion.

Finally, I want to congratulate you lightworkers. Remember Froukje’s metaphorical fire from the start of the message? This fire certainly is not bigger than you lightworkers are, as a group. In fact you’re doing an amazing job at uplifting the consciousness of humanity, which will eventually lead to a love-based society and to this fire being put out.

You will be free.

I love everyone endlessly and unconditionally,

Your star sister,

Tunia 

A. S.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6R-OW6N8yyE

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