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Tuesday, July 23, 2024

Resetting - 2

Resetting

Part 2

The Great Quantum Transition

By Lev 

Posted on July 23, 2024
 
 


What is the state of our resetting (see Part 1 – DNI, July 18, 2024) today in specific parameters? They aren’t fixed, but constantly fluctuate, as three multidirectional processes occur simultaneously on the Subtle Plane and surface. Namely: the dismantling of 3D, the formation of 4D/5D and active attempts by NAA, Dark and Gray to restore their destroyed infrastructure. How does all that look technically?

The Earth’s energy space was divided into several huge force fields. Ones are formed by Nature, highly Spiritual earthlings and Co-Creators. Others are the 3D power circuits, which are being destroyed in many parts, with its superstructures, cells, borders, communities and their inhabitants. Their clusters, like a mosaic, cover the entire terrestrial surface as dense, tightly intertwined net. The System continuously injects negativity in it, turning Souls into toxic sources, and making people disconnected and obedient slaves to the basest instincts and aspirations. When Co-Creators remove this poisonous substance, in its place emerges mutilated, chopped up and half-dead organic matter, which is quickly filled with the same acid content again.

The word egoism is closest to the general characteristic of this environment. At some stage, its low vibrations support and inspire the victim, tempting a person with material and other possibilities. But after completing the task of vital support of the System, in most cases the performer is depersonalized, since the ego (as entity) needs more space than the human body and wants to feel only itself. From this space, a gray, like a plastic substance, spreads throughout Earth, corroding the living planetary field, and restores the damaged infrastructure, its key points.

As of July 2024, Co-Creators and their ground team removed on a Subtle Plane about 46% of the 3D world and, despite the active resistance of its rulers and inhabitants, continue this work. After dismantling 93% of the three-dimensional structures, a new global extension with different frequency enclaves from 3.14D to 3.9D will be built (see – Busting, DNI, 24 June 2024). Unfortunately, this is a slow process, because the spirituality of earthlings is growing sluggishly and has reached only 49% of the level, necessary for the Transition, and constantly rises and falls.

Clusters, stuck in low frequencies, the habitats of the living dead, are more and more insulated, split and resetting in parts: ashes to ashes, dust to dust, alive to living. Everyone continues on the path to their destiny, guided by own Soul and mentality. All processes run in parallel, and each pulls in its way, in sync with dominant vibes. Which ones exactly?

The layer of self-centeredness draws everyone, who is full of disrespect for others’ life, their free will and choice freedom; megalomania, intolerance and self-righteousness; greed, envy and covetousness. The tendency to deceive, manipulate and parasitize on everything… The list is endless and lethal for such a person, along with the communities they form, but so far both are actively feeding each other.

The dismantling and polarized the 3D layer. One pole gathers those striving for Spirituality, knowledge and development, who are ready to understand and accept reality and people as they are. The other pole groups the indifferent and passive men, shifting responsibility for selves and own lives to other people, the System and the authorities, as well as their elite, ideologues with a mass of obedient servants and defenders.

The layer that NAA and their AI run. It unites all those who never repent of their cruel and horrendous deeds, violate the Cosmic Laws of life and devalue it, cause suffering to others, push them into poverty and distress, commit physical and moral violence. Who hates, deeply despises and abhors people, considering it normal. Unfortunately, 62% of the collective unconscious is filled with this stuff, which has not been worked out, and constantly comes to the surface, replenishing with its toxic ectoplasm the Earth’s field after being cleaned by Co-Creators.

The layer of Light. Everyone, who is actively involved in dismantling the System and fully shares the values of Co-Creators, is unified here. They value the man’s and own life, free will and choice freedom of each in his/her path, are open and mobile in interaction. Take without prejudice, opposing and ready to cooperate, individually and collectively. Equal with others and respect for them. Team up without deception and exploiting, manipulation and cunning, greed and dominate other. Avert to violence and parasitism in all forms and manifestations, and active resist to them. Spiritual and loving people and life, help the new world and bringing it closer with their daily work, skill and experience. Accept others’ differences, mistakes, and viewpoints, and ready to help them in inner work if they are on it.

In fact, not one, but two works are needed on this path. The main one is petty and painstaking with dusty grudges, fears and unpleasant nigglings, putting them in front of the Light in own Soul. It’s just a daily routine that may seem boring, but is extremely necessary to make own self move on and not stop hammer away. And as soon as it starts, we’ll already know where the Truth is, and no forcing is needed anymore.

The similarity of the routine is that we still do not see the overall result behind it, where it will lead. Not aware of how much we have already done or not, and wander about in the dark, just knowing that any movement towards Love and the Source is better than eternal dullness and pain. We only feel the desired goal in that direction, as seamen sail by the compass and the stars when don’t see the shores.

As a rule, routine work does not provide strategic vision and deep inspiration. It’s just drudgery that needs to be done, because right now we’re in the dirtiest place in the Universe. And if we don’t learn to discipline ourselves to overcome our minor breakdowns, distracting us like clouds of biting mosquitoes, we’ll never get out of the 3D cloaca.

We must remember that toiling hard won’t last long without a lot of inspiration. But having found inspiration, looking deep into ourselves and seeing the Light there, we will not last long either, if don’t learn the discipline to protect this Light from the flies that will flock to it and overwhelm us every day. Both parts of inner work are important. We need to stop looking for incentives and tips from the outside – on bloggers’ websites, MSM, socials, and even in books, no matter how good they are. Because this is just someone’s attempt to retell what we can see with own eyes, if look at selves fairly, without self-deception.

The same is true of our place on Earth, clustering into different frequency densities and enclaves. Even if we don’t know where the perfect place for us is, it’s important to believe that it exists, and our dreams of such a place confirm its tenure. But every place, like people, is also born, transformed and dies. The one environment or community is comfortable today, but tomorrow suffocates and kills us because of our complete incompatibility with it. So it’s not about finding a particular refuge that will always be our abode, it’s about making sure that the moment we’re in a place, and realize that this is what we’re looking for, because we feel that it alive.

At first, this manifests in small events, when we want to express selves in some way and successfully do it, meeting reciprocal interest and active support. We don’t need to immediately anchor into place where this desire spontaneously arose, and next to which we felt the wish to love. We just need to let this feeling grow, nourish it and preserve it. And when it grows enough to hatch from a chrysalis into a butterfly, it will connect us to specific location on Earth, and we couldn’t confuse it with anything.

We have noticed more than once how places and people that served as a source of our inspiration suddenly become boring and unbearable, forcing us to look for something new. In recent years, we have simply been dragged into the swamp of the past to work out what still keeps us in 3D. This is a state of constant internal conflict that we are not in our place, and have no idea where to move. But can go through this too, if don’t run into extremes. Just live day after day, despite feeling useless, and listen to self. And to the advice of Co-Creators, which constantly remind us of the following.

In every action, show flexibility, love and prudence. Try to be wise in working on self and be afraid to be a blind and obedient tool of others. Choose good friends and partners, multiply your good qualities in communicating with them; draw conclusions and try to remember and bring all the best to life.

Develop plans and ways for a life, full of work and harmony in relationship to everything around you. Know that with every bad thought, word, and deed you violate the sacred rights with which you are generously endowed by Nature, like every creation. Cultivate firmness and constancy in self and don’t entertain while working. If it’s annoying but necessary, be able to patiently bring it to an end.

Try to clear your speech of empty and meaningless words. Make it clear, precise and concise. Avoid places where reign empty chatter, anger and hatred, intolerance and discord, harmful entertainment and stupidity. Don’t be fussy. Eliminate the lies. Be honest and friendly. Develop a sense of nobility more widely and be polite and simple when communicating with people. Never be afraid of anything. Be balanced in pleasure and suffering, joy and sorrow. Always forgive and respond with love to hate. This is the only way to defeat ill-will.

Your thoughts are your children. You have to make each of them beautiful. Every thought should be a creative force aimed at goodness. Always remember that thought power is very great. Use it to help the world. Be accurate in everything, truthful and precise in your actions. Otherwise, you can’t be assigned important work. Life must flow through you in all its brilliance and strength. Don’t let unimportant things weaken your perseverance in achieving your goal.

Life and Love are a might force that makes everything exist in the Universe. Love rules the world: everything that is done for its sake has validity of the Cosmic Law. Only by loving everything can you defeat Evil. Bring Love wherever you go. You will soon understand how it eases all your ways. Make a firm and unwavering decision to become an expression of Love and willingness to help wherever you can.

If you have more knowledge than others, don’t be proud of it and demonstrate superiority, but share your attains if it’s appropriate at that moment. Remember that every minute of your life has its purpose. Understand this. Be afraid of empty minutes. They can make up hours and days, while your task on Earth is significant. Try to color every minute of your life with work, knowledge and new discoveries. May your tireless work be a great pleasure for you, and the fire of creativity will inextinguishably illuminate your path.

Try to always keep your thoughts absolutely clean and direct them to how improve people’s lives and alleviate their suffering. May your Soul always radiate Light and kindness, warmth and compassion, cheerfulness and a desire to help others. Then you will feel how difficult things dissolve, and anguishes turn into joy.

Be careful and condescending in judging people, because you are still imperfect. Be strict with self and work tirelessly to correct own shortcomings. You will have to endure many trials in life. Only through them you get stronger, and can successfully withstand tough tests if arm yourself with firmness and self-belief.

If you fail, don’t lose heart. Despondency will only weaken your strength and slow down inner growth. Better to gather yourself and think about the way for further action. Thus, you will increase your fortitude and multiply strength. Turn every failure and bitter experience into a valuable lesson that will serve as a guide for you in the future. Every obstacle in your path will indicate what you need to develop in order to be fully equipped for struggle. But in it, you must always remember your neighbors. Be afraid to buy well-being at the price of their suffering. Such getting is evil, fragile and non-durable.

Be able to use your energy carefully and wisely in any work. Make your body strong, vigorous and resilient. Don’t stuff it with more food than necessary for a normal state. Don’t burden it with everything harmful to its health. Study the laws of Spiritual and proper physical growth. Your body is a tool that you must use wisely to withstand all the storms of life.

You are endowed with more power and wisdom than many, so you should always be on guard of the defenseless and helpless, whether that is people, animals or plants. As one saying goes, the darker is the night, the brighter are the stars. So you too be in the men’s darkness and the worldly fuss a carrier of Light, Love and Knowledge. The more of them you have, the more obscurity you will dispel.

Expand your perception of beauty through art. Love music and painting. Look deeper into the play of colors. Listen more closely to the sounds. Show interest in everything that the genius of the creators of beauty manifested in and can enrich your worldview. Rejoice in the blue sky, the murmuring stream, the singing of birds, fragrant flowers. Rejoice in the last rays of the setting Sun. Rejoice in the invigorating radiance of the morning dawn. Rejoice – and the Light will be brighter in your Soul, and distant worlds will be closer. Be like a Day Luminary, generously radiating luminosity and buoyancy.

See how many paths to the great sources await their travelers. But to follow them, you must always move forward. And life itself is movement, onwards or backwards. With every thought, deed, and action you move. If they are directed towards good, you always gain. Be afraid to take steps back.

It’s difficult to climb to the top and easy to slide down. Only at the peak you can see the great and vast horizons and understand the full value of the path you’ve made. You will get what you have been looking for, despite hardships and overcoming difficulties. And so it always is, with every minute of your life, rise higher and higher. Know that you will anywhen get a helping hand on each summit ascent.

And the more you help people, the deeper and wider your mind and Soul will be. And easier will be the hardest climbs. Therefore, eradicate the feeling of selfishness, don’t be its eternal slave. Almighty rewarded you with great gifts, sowed precious seeds in your Soul and waits for them to come up, and whether you’ll share the harvest with others.

Love everything with a broad Love. Go to people with love, knowledge and beauty. Combine them. Build a bright life with them, full of tireless work and joy. In this great work, you will master inexhaustible, new life-blood, strength and wisdom. This is the only way you will fulfill your mission on Earth and commitment to the Source.

These are the Co-Creators’ standards of our resetting. Besides it, if we aware or only vaguely feel them deep inside, there is also a moment of disclosure of our personality, where it manifests itself. Many of us don’t know what to do in life; everything is covered with a dimming, doubts and obscurity. This means that the time has not come yet. It’s necessary to wait for the Spiritual aspects to connect with the ego. When this connection occurs and strengthened, new assistance will come from above.

Our Higher Self constantly reminds that we are the star consciousness, checks all our mistakes, experiences and guides in the right direction. It also sees that we aren’t ready for many changes yet, and tries not to rush. For us, it looks like a dead end, where we don’t know what to do and lack self-confidence. But the Higher Self leads us in any case, to important people, gives precious information. And we, one way or another, are going on the beam.

When observed our future incarnation before entering the child’s body, we knew perfectly well what and how it would unfold, and that there could be periods of total oblivion and confusion. Personality is very easy to manipulate in this 3D world, it has many triggers for steering. But when we finally come into contact with Higher Self, everything changes. Our cosmic memory and knowledge start returning and wait to be unpacked right here, on Earth. And that’s when our destiny manifests itself. We may feel a craving for creativity, for other similar consciousness, for voluminous and specific information. We don’t understand what hold us on this planet, but recalling own space homes want to unite countries and continents with them, all earthlings.

A similar resetting occurs with Earth and its Crystal. On 21 July at 03:10 PM CET, came the new info about it. The terrestrial core’s self-tuning goes on non-stop, deleting foreign destructive energies, doesn’t letting them get back. From this pulsating center, are continuously coming might impulses via neural and wave connections with 144 main run and control units for all spheres of life on the planet. A fully cleansed Crystal will help to complete the purification from the bowels to the surface, and then, all levels of the Subtle Plane, including the psychosomatic. It is boosted by changes in the cores of Galactic, Stellar and Planetary Systems of the Local Universe that also are resetting for new objectives.

Frequent and more and more powerful Solar flares are caused by this. Precisely in sync with them burst prominences of the Earth’s core, affecting all living and inanimate things. Everything is exposed to radiation and rebuilding on many levels. It will be followed by aligning and bringing into step the different frequency terrestrial clusters mentioned above. Pixels of realities are heavily involved in that, and each is aimed at specific tasks, a concrete level and type of energy.

The new shape of Earth has already been determined. It will have new constants of reality, orbital position, fixation of the axis, magnetic and geographical poles, configuration of lands and continents, elements of physical matter, biological basis of life, change in the structure of the Earth’s natural satellites and much more. Resetting continues.

Lev 


Sunday, July 21, 2024

Resetting

Resetting

The Great Quantum Transition

By Lev 

Posted on July 21, 2024
 
 


July of this year, a huge number of karmic couples broke up. Some have lived together for decades and solved many common tasks, coming from other dimensions (see – Home Worlds, DNI, 8 July 2024). The same happened to many partnerships and friendships, and this process continues in waves to this day. Many had the feeling that they had been artificially divorced, literally transferred from one branch of reality to another. Also, in numerous cases, strong energy failures occurred, very similar to black magical attacks with severe consequences in the form of splitting consciousness, a sharp deterioration in health, etc.

As recently Disclosure News highlighted (see – Boosting, DNI, 24 June 2024), global resetting and redistribution of embodied Souls by densities and realities is underway on 3D Earth. Co-Creators run this spec-op through a giant Matrix structure similar to the faceted eye, which emits plasma pulses on a Subtle Plane.

The whole terrestrial space is continuously permeated by these radiant waves. Passing via people’s Souls and consciousness, they scan, segment and redirect men to a reality’s branch that corresponds to individual energy vibes and embedded potential. And in a new space, they can live on and realize their capabilities in the best possible way, according to the settings and resonances checked in contact with the Light rays.

For many, this is a very difficult trial, aggravated by incomprehension of what goes on, and why stable relations with friends and the loved ones are suddenly in tatters. The reason is that on a Subtle Plane, every union and pair looks different. The luminosity in it is uneven: one shines brighter, the other less and has more karma spots. But segmentation is performed not by luminous density, but by codes in the scanning beams and human Souls. If the Light conductivity in the pair is not the same, each brought to corresponding freqs’ reality. This transfer/redistribution is carried out algorithmically by the same ray. What happens next?

Periodically, some places in regions and countries are replenished with new people, who transferred here from their previous reality and joint local old inhabitants. The scanning and steering rays have already reset part of the programs and memory in their Souls, and they are still half-blind, trying to navigate the new energy field. If in the past someone had a bad time in the family or with a partner, then here they can meet their ideal. At what frequency does one’s consciousness/energy vibrates, relationships are established with the same people on the principle of correspondence.

And what if, after resetting and breaking up a couple, a person doesn’t feel any improvement? He just needs to wait for kindred Soul. This attitude looks passive and humble, but should be ready to accept help. This is a tincture of care, love and a desire to share. Even if a person hides from everyone, reluctant to leave home, and avoids contacts with another Soul, it will still happen.

Co-Creators and Guardians never rush and patiently wait for a person to step forth from own cocoon, and just bring people together in the same space and circumstances. Only the man himself decides what to do. If he is ready to change, then out of the blue opportunities appear. And accepting them, he already thinks and acts not as before, but in a completely new way. And through this, moves to the next level of development, without perceiving it as a challenge.

Yes, the Matrix is destroying today many couples and seemingly strong families who planned a common future…Does it turn out that people are only pawns in resetting? Are our desires not perceived in any way at all? This is far from the case. Nothing is done without the consent of the Higher Selves, which strive for the maximum effectiveness of its manifestation bodies, the human beings. Married couples don’t break up immediately, but mature to it gradually, when one participant begins self-destructing, and the self-undoing program is activated in him. A duo can no longer maintain balance if one radiates love, while the other destroys his body and Soul with suspicion and jealousy, hate and aggression, drugs and alcohol.

The Co-Creators’ operation to distribute the earthlings in different densities and territories concerns unbalanced unions. It ensures the RIGHT of each Soul to choose the path that is more natural and comfortable for it. A person is given a chance on another branch of reality, where resonating personalities gather, and where they can find a partner more suitable in codes and frequencies, and fully realize selves in their version.

What was the basis of attraction in the disintegrated pairs? It was not only a similar potential, but also the tank circuit. And everything was holding on this resonance. The tank was de-energized, and the desire to be together immediately ended. The strength of the love tension/attraction has changed, and what kept no longer works, and the couple is heading for a breakup. However, if love remains, then gravity can be restored. Sometimes the scanning and distributing beam passes through the partners many times, they separate for several months, and get back again until finally part. Moreover, often both find selves in the same place and see each other with a new companion, with whom they are comfortable and well.

All this looks logical and reasonable, but there are nuances. Some spent a lot of time and effort to recover, because physically and psycho-emotionally were on the verge, but again face problems in the new union. Sometimes after resetting, occurs splitting of consciousness and betrayal, when a person cannot explain his actions and often distorts or ignores the evident facts. Or suddenly becomes arrogant, hyper-confident in self and own decisions. He starts manipulating and lying to significant other, although yesterday planned children, dedicated poems and poured out streams of love confessions on socials. What causes such a metamorphosis?

Today, more and more powerful radiations from the Source structure the planetary energy, and then Gaia unfolds it into manifested reality. Many space technogeek and parasitic civilizations are eager to gain access to terrestrial vital power through incarnation in a physical body, since at the moment they only have access to the Earth’s astral plane.

Through it, they plug-in to people and, when requesting the purpose of their presence or contact, give such answers: “We are only observers”, “We are interested in how you live and your emotions”, “We want to build the same world as Earth, and study how it works”, “We just take a little creative energy to understand its capacity”, “We will mix 1% of selves to your Spark, no one will notice, but we will live, you don’t regret?” Many people are completely taken over by these possessors, especially in global organizations, governments, business and other areas that determine the development of mankind. But even ordinary married couples are vulnerable to astral entities and easily become their avatars.

To remove cosmic parasites from Earth, Co-Creators direct to it power quantum flows, exposing aliens’ tapping. Thanks to this, their victims can wake up and avoid the NAA influence. But the System tries to save it by wrapping streams into substance that works as a double-sided reflector and weakens the impact. On the Subtle Plane, it is clearly visible that the Source’s energies saturate the planet’s core, but hardly distributed across the globe.

As a result, many have a feeling that these energies are somewhere very close, but for some reason don’t manifest in reality. This is an illusion of access lacking. The technogeeks’ tool is not omnipotent and cannot stop resetting. Now, a huge amount of Higher Light Beings, Star Seeds, Lightworkers and Lightwarriors are actively involved in the distribution of high-freqs’ flows. Each of us can also be a conductor of the Source’s radiation through Spark in own Soul. For example, during meditation, better – in nature, taking care of protection, and in full awareness of self as an inseparable part of One. The more we control our body, thoughts and feelings, the less room there is for aliens and Darks, and greater the radiance of Earth with new power.

Each Solar flare, which carries a lot of energies, accelerates this process. Since July 12, the activity of the Luminary increased sharply and in four days produced more than ten M-level flashes (of fourth grade on a 5-point scale), and two the highest ones – X1.2 and X1.9. The more powerful was only on May 14 – X8.7. Thus, in specific territories (regions, countries and continents) Co-Creators widen habitats of kindred and likeminded Souls with similar capabilities, goals and endeavors. This is the background of many events in the local and geopolitical arena, where we already see many layers and clusters, replenished by people according to their internal codes and radiated energy.

The described processes are part of a larger mechanism. Ideally, Earth, mankind and human body are self-sufficient and self-regulating life forms. For that, Co-Creators support many parameters, external and internal. One of the adjustment tools are the energies of water, earth, air and fire elementals. At the global level, they are always in an equilibrium state, but not in a local and continental scale.

It’s manifested as occurring simultaneously heavy rains and floods (the predominance of water energy), wildfires and volcanic eruptions (fire pressure), droughts (lack of water), quakes (the earth elemental’s impact), tornadoes and hurricanes (the action of the air elemental). And concurrently, somewhere everything is quiet and peaceful. The planetary Logos itself determines where and which elemental’s action to weaken, and which to enforce. If necessary, for resetting the situation in a particular territory, the Logos can change the might and scale of its impact – from several square kilometers to entire countries. What energy to use, the Logos decides on the basis of current developments. In extreme cases, it may apply the Black Swan Protocol (see – Warning, DNI, 22 June 2024).

Its relevance is evidenced by the Co-Creators’ last analysis of the Earth’s situation, disclosed on 17 July 2024 at 03:26 PM CET. In it, they confirmed that regretfully Darks and their NAA rulers took the final decision to launch WWIII under false flag in the nearest 2-4 years according to the actual readiness of specific countries and their combat potential. It is planned to start a war in Europe by simulating an attack on one of the NATO States, which would make Article 5 of its Charter applicable. This is bad news.

The good news is that the Karmic Council of the Local Universe has given the green light for the preemptive use of the Black Swan Protocol. Previously, technical conditions were created for it. Now, the Karma Lords, after a “legal examination” of such an impact on each continent, have come to the conclusion that in today’s situation this won’t be a violation of the Cosmos Laws and will not become a karma-forming act.

Only two Logos, 5D Gaia and 14D Al-Terra-Gaia, synchronically can make the decision to proactively use the Black Swan (as the key rotates together when launching nuclear missiles) in the event of a global threat. Or Al-Terra Gaya alone may apply the Protocol on a scale of one or two continents. It appears that this is the final invitation to the System and its Power Pyramid to come back to reality and avoid reckless attempts that could be lethal to both.

Lev 


Saturday, April 20, 2024

10 Subtle Signs Someone Is Jealous of You (and You Don’t Even Realize It)

 10 Subtle Signs Someone Is Jealous of You

(and You Don’t Even Realize It) 

By Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Posted on April 20, 2024
 
 



William Shakespeare described jealousy as a ‘green-eyed monster’, and for good reason. Jealousy ruins friendships and intimate relationships. It leaves the jealous unfulfilled with their life and resentful towards others.

Jealousy is coveting things other people have; things you think you deserve. The fact others have these things makes your life worse. It can also stem from a fear of losing something or someone.

People can be jealous of anything, including lifestyle, material things, or family relationships. It stems from low self-esteem, a fear of abandonment, or insecurity.

Some signs of jealousy are blatantly obvious, but what are the subtle signs someone is jealous of you?

“You can only be jealous of someone who has something you think you ought to have yourself.” Margaret Atwood

10 Subtle Signs Someone Is Jealous of You

1. They are there for you when you’re down but vanish when you succeed

“The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.”
Bette Midler

One of the more subtle signs someone is jealous of you is how they’re always around when you’re down and depressed, but disappear when you’re happy. Wallowing in your despair lifts them up. When you’re not doing well, they’re happy.

2. They tell you how lucky you are for all your success

“What is jealousy but a reflection of your own failures?”
Michael Connelly

If they stick around when you’re winning, they’ll put your success down to luck or others. I recall a colleague saying to another, “You’re so lucky being that thin. It must be your genes.” The other colleague replied that no, it was exercise and healthy eating.

Envious people never credit success to effort or sacrifice. Your parents enabled you, you had a wonderful school, or the manager likes you.

3. They don’t respond to news you’ve made public

“Few men have the natural strength to honor a friend’s success without envy.”
Aeschylus

Silence can be a subtle sign that someone is jealous of you. Have you posted something newsworthy on social media and this person hasn’t responded? This is a brilliant passive-aggressive approach, because the jealous person can say you are overreacting. They were just busy, and the world doesn’t revolve around you.

4. They are nit-picky about you

“Jealousy is the fear of comparison.”
Max Frisch

Most jealous types won’t come out and directly criticize you. However, they use subtle forms of criticism, such as nitpicking or questioning your decisions. They’ll cloak this nitpicking by saying they’re only trying to help you make the best of your life, or, if they didn’t tell you—who would?

5. They give you poor advice and push you in the wrong direction

“Isn’t it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?”
Sean Covey

One of the more sneaky signs someone is jealous of you is giving the wrong advice. Jealous types want you to fail, so they’ll do everything they can to sabotage your efforts. Sure, they’ll act like they have your best interests at heart, but secretly they’re hoping for failure.

6. They change abruptly when you tell them about a new achievement

“When you do well, everybody’s after you, and sometimes the motives are legitimate, and sometimes it’s envy and jealousy.”
Robert Kraft

Watch out for a sudden shift in behavior after you’ve delivered your good news. This is a subtle but significant sign of jealousy. This is especially obvious if the jealous person was supportive beforehand. Now, they are hostile, cold, and absent.

7. They are friendly with you on a one-to-one basis, but off with you when you’re with people

“Jealousy is such a waste of time because you’re jealous of them, and they go about their lives and have a wonderful time, so what’s the point?”
Joy Behar

This is another form of undermining you. Be wary of those people that are pally and friendly with you when you are alone with them, but then tell jokes or criticize you as soon as you’re with a group.

8. They don’t include you in social events

“Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.”
Erica Jong

We all want to belong, and being left out can be hurtful. Jealous individuals achieve two things when they deliberately leave you out. It gives them the space to undermine you behind their back, and the knowledge you’ll be upset when you find out about the exclusion.

9. They ask leading questions about you to others

“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.”
William Penn

The way we word a question can provoke a certain response. One subtle sign of jealousy is asking leading questions. For example:

“Do you think Tom is a bit too old for that style of beard?” or, “Does it annoy you that Stacy always leaves work early?”

This is a conspiratorial way of getting others to think about you negatively.

10. They secretly copy you

“A lot of people get so hung up on what they can’t have that they don’t think for a second about whether they really want it.”
Lionel Shriver

I had a friend years ago that would always ask me where I got my clothes or bags from. It flattered me. But when I noticed her wearing the things I’d bought, it got a little ‘Single, White Female’. I never minded her copying one or two things, but she’d turn up in complete outfits. She even got a job at the same train station where I was working.

As well as subtle signs someone is jealous of you, there are also more extreme signs.

12 Signs Someone Is Extremely Jealous of You They make fun of you for silly, little things
  • They frequently belittle your accomplishments
  • They take the credit for your work
  • They give you obvious backhanded compliments
  • They isolate you from friends and family
  • They are happy when you experience setbacks
  • They are always competing against you
  • They hate it when people compliment you
  • They love giving you bad news
  • They always try to one-up you
  • They are hostile towards you for no reason
  • They are demotivating towards you

What Can You Do If Someone is Jealous of You?

If you spot subtle signs someone is jealous of you, try talking to them and ask them to open up about why they are jealous. Two people cannot lead identical lives. However, perhaps there are aspects of your life the jealous person can achieve.

And if you think you might be a jealous person, don’t forget, you never know what someone is dealing with. I recall seeing the tragic news of the suicide of a young and beautiful model. She had the world at her feet, living a luxurious lifestyle, but was deeply unhappy. You’ll never be happy if you compare yourself to others.

“The surest route to breeding jealousy is to compare. Since jealousy comes from feeling less than another, comparisons only fan the fires.”
Dorothy Corkille Briggs

Final Thoughts

Left unchecked, jealousy can destroy relationships, create toxic working environments, and cause bitter resentment. No one wins when one person is jealous, but understanding that jealousy comes from a place of insecurity or a sense of failure can help to heal.

Communication is key. If you spot the signs someone is jealous of you, be empathic. However, remember that jealousy is never an excuse for unacceptable behavior.

I’ll finish with words from Yoko Ono:


“Transform jealousy into admiration, and what you admire will become part of your life.”

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Janey Davies
 
 
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Janey Davies has been published online for over 10 years. She has suffered from a panic disorder for over 30 years, which prompted her to study and receive an Honours degree in Psychology with the Open University. Janey uses the experiences of her own anxiety to offer help and advice to others dealing with mental health issues.
 
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Saturday, January 6, 2024

A Vision for Friendship

A Vision for Friendship

The Vision Alignment Project

 
 

We envision a world where our first inclination, upon meeting someone new, is to open ourselves up to being friends with them. We see a world where this is made possible because we have learned to truly care for one another; where we give each other the benefit of the doubt because we are no longer harming one another; and where we have all realized that our highest and best interests and our friend's highest and best interests are one and the same.

In this way, friendships abound in our lives. No one is lonely unless he or she chooses it; and no one is left to fend for themself because now all of us have plenty of friends we can call on whenever we want.

As a result of our many friendships, we have entirely stopped separating ourselves from each other and have begun to come together in larger circles and communities. Indeed, our coming together and our community-making are keys to all that we seek, for they have provided us with peace in our hearts and as well as peace in our world.

And all this has happened because we started out by making friends.
 

Thursday, November 16, 2023

Are you attracting the same kind of person in every relationship?

Are you attracting the same kind of person in every relationship?

By Jennifer Hoffman

Posted on November 16, 2023




A few months ago I created quite a buzz on my weekly Enlightening Life LIVE broadcast when I announced that I noticed a strong pattern in all of my relationships with men – whether in marriage, dating, or friendships, they all had one significant factor in common.

Every one of them had a difficult relationship with their mother. Some of the mothers were even physical, verbally, and emotionally abusive and those were the men I was particularly attracted to. (I am not kidding)

I’m being serious here – in a room full of men I would be attracted to the one who had suffered the most emotional damage from his mother.

I wonder why….. Now you know I do not have the greatest relationship with my mother and she has been quite a challenge in my life. So why would I choose people who had similar mother experiences?

Because it’s part of my Love Karma and the healing I want to help them with as I also heal my own issues. It’s very complicated but it is why we choose friends, partners, and romantic relationships that just do not work out in a great way and that cause us nothing but trauma and heartache.

If you think about it, do you do this too? Do a little inventory of your relationships so far and pay special attention to the people you have become strongly emotionally attached to, that you would call your ‘soul mate’ or that you were in a long term relationship with.

What common characteristic do they all have and how is that related to something in your life that is part of your current life or past, or a past life energy (if you are aware of them)?

I guarantee you will find a link between them and it will also let you know why these relationships are so difficult.

Let me know what you come up with! It was quite the shock to my LIVE program audience but they started thinking about their relationships and they agreed with me!

Many bright, beautiful blessings,


Jennifer Hoffman

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