Showing posts with label boundaries. Show all posts
Showing posts with label boundaries. Show all posts

Thursday, January 2, 2025

Spirit Pathways' January Newsletter

  January Newsletter

By Kate

Posted on January 2, 2024



2025 promises to be a year of profound transition with the cosmic and planetary alignments indicating that we are in for another powerful year... yay! (with just a touch of sarcasm).

I am slowly inching my way into the new year... 2024 was pretty brutal and I am being somewhat cautious as I enter 2025.  The energy feels different already which is good!  What I do sense very strongly about 2025 is the importance of boundaries, balance and groundedness.  The energies will be wild and unpredictable and being centered in our hearts, aligned with our soul, balanced and grounded is how we will navigagte our way through whatever the year has in store for us.

Be especially mindful of where you are placing your energy and your focus this year as this will determine how you experience each moment.  Draw on the tools, strength and resilience you have gained over the past few years while remembering that as a soul you signed up to be a part of one of the most exciting events - the shift in human consciousness.  

In 2024 I was very aware of how our energy system and body was shifting and evolving in prepartion for a deeper embodiment of our soul's consciousness.  For many this has been an incredibly uncomfortable process as old patterns, beliefs and energies rose to the surface to be released and cleared.  

This year our soul's consciousness will be grounded within our human bodies activating an ever greater embodiment and expansion.  From February each month a different energetic point will be activated generating a process of healing, release and then deeper embodiment.  To support us through this I will be offering a 12-month program called Energetic Mastery.  You can learn more about this program HERE.

I will continue to offer a bi-weekly Sunday Webinar where I will share the insights, wisdom and guidance I am receiving for us.  The first webinar of 2025 will be held this Sunday, January 5th, 2025.  I look forward to seeing you all there.  You can register for this webinar HERE or below.  

As always I offer personal one-on-one sessions for those who are looking for support, guidance and healing.  Please view my website to book or contact me for information on sessions, healing processes and coaching programs.  

I thank you all for your continued support!  It is a pleasure and an honour to be a part of your journey.  May 2025 bring you joy and peace!

Much love

Kate

Sunday, June 16, 2024

A Very Gentle Reminder

A Very Gentle Reminder

The Creator Writings

Channel: Jennifer Farley





Posted on June 16, 2024
 

If you are still concerning yourself with other’s behavior then it might be time to look at why you are choosing to send your energy in that direction. If those actions have a direct impact, then act and state your boundaries. If not, then it is time to take a closer look within.

What is the trigger?

Why is it necessary for you to be wrapped up in the drama?

How would your involvement change the outcome?

Often, humans use drama as a distraction to avoid the inner work needed to continue growing. The Universe very gently stating that there are many things to be done in preparation for the next wave coming your way. Use this time to you best advantage and all will be well.

The Creator
 
Jennifer Farley 

 Reminder discernment is recommended

 

Friday, April 26, 2024

DIFFICULTIES IN CHANGES ARE PART OF THE CLEANSING OF THE EARTH

DIFFICULTIES IN CHANGES ARE PART OF THE CLEANSING OF THE EARTH

Mike Quinsey’s Higher Self

Posted on April 26, 2024

  

 
 
The turmoil upon Earth continues with no apparent end in sight, you have climate and Earth changes, changing seasons and extreme weather conditions that are causing difficulties for all forms of life. It is all part of the cleansing of Earth that over a multitude of years has been abused and neglected. It has to be restored to its prime condition and it is unfortunate that all forms of life even in your seas are being affected.

The outlook is not helped by the threats of war that loom large, but be assured we are carefully monitoring everything that is taking place. We are present at meetings where the future of Earth is discussed that will determine if and when we intervene.

We will ensure that boundaries we have imposed are met, as we cannot allow you total freedom to do as you like. We are aware of everything that is happening so you may be assured that we are ready to intervene if matters get out of hand and threaten your very existence.

We are protecting you and Mother Earth as your future has already been planned and will be found very much to your liking. The dark Ones are the progenitors of their own future and are creating their own separate life line, and will get what is due to them of their own making.

Be assured the script for the future has already been written and the end times will come regardless of their actions or desires. So do not be afraid regardless of what happens in between time as the cleansing of the planet has to take place.

When you planned to incarnate at this time you were aware of the likely outcome, so deep down you should feel assured it will be very satisfactory. What we have given you is an outline of the coming events and not even we know exactly how you will respond, but you were chosen to be present because of your knowledge and past experience.

We know you can cope because you have proved you are capable of dealing with whatever challenges cross your path. We have total faith in your ability and experience to stand fast whatever challenges come your way.

Soon you can expect contact with your ET friends who have followed your progress for a long, long time. They are looking forward to meeting you again because you are not strangers and have met many times when out of the body during you sleep state. As you might say “they are family” and in the not too distant future you will met openly.

Much is arranged with your agreement at such times when guidance is given to ensure you have satisfactory experiences. As you can imagine you are very much involved with your extra-terrestrial friends and in the near future you will meet again but on Earth.

You can enjoy life and have relaxing periods as all is not meant to be hard work but you are “on call” if something crops up that needs your experience. Clearly some of you have much more experience to call upon and it will be used when necessary.

We have mentioned on a number of occasions how experienced you are and can handle really testing situations because of it. Naturally you are set up with the contacts you need to carry out your work, and perhaps you have noticed how convenient matters can work out. It is all planned in advance and we ensure that all goes according to plan.

Earth is a beautiful planet with so much beauty and variety but it has been carelessly used in latter times for profit by any means with little care for the habitat. Fortunately there are some souls who understand it as a living earth and try to make people aware of their responsibility to look after it. But it has suffered so much damage that can only be fully rectified by major changes that are now taking place. It is a sad affair but it can be restored given time.

We should mention that there are other versions of Earth on different time lines and at present we see where yours is leading, but if you raised the vibrations sufficiently you could find yourselves heading for an easier path to the higher levels. In the meantime we concentrate on your present one but are always ready for change. If you think of an individual soul who has achieved it they will automatically find themselves at the right level for them.

You really have so much to learn of the truth of your being but all in good time and not until you are ready for it. It would not achieve much if you could rise up beyond your own level. Spiritual growth is sometimes slow but there is no urgency to rush matters. You automatically rise up as you increase your vibrations. So you have much to look forward to and how well you do is very much up to you.

Naturally you can also go down in vibration but that is very unlikely once you have reached a higher level. Our role in your lives is to ensure you hold on to the progress you have made and better still help you rise up Most spiritually aware souls can “feel” when they are being guided to do something and your Guides are there to help you avoid a possible disaster.

I leave you with love and blessings, and may the Light brighten your days and path to completion. This message comes through my Higher Self my God Self, and every soul has the same connection to God.

In Love and Light.

Mike Quinsey
 
 
Please note my new Email address: 

NOTE: [For more on life after death, see New Maps of Heaven at https://goldengaiadb.com/index.php?title=New_Maps_of_Heaven.]
 

Your Boundaries

Your Boundaries

The Creator Writings

Channel: Jennifer Farley 




Posted on April 26, 2024
 
 
As you move forward in this current shift, it may be frustrating to be around those who want you to stay put. Instead of releasing you to grow easily, they may push to violate your boundaries, demanding that you surrender your morals and ethics to please them. 

This, again, is where choice comes into play. You can state and enforce those boundaries firmly or allow them to change your thoughts and feelings of what is right for you.

Remember…they are not thinking of you; any compliance they are requesting is solely for their benefit and you are the only one with control over whether this will happen or not. Regardless of what you decide, The Universe will always love and support you no matter what.
 
The Creator
 
Jennifer Farley 

 Reminder discernment is recommended

 

Sunday, January 21, 2024

The Devouring Mother Archetype: 11 Signs & 8 Ways You Can Heal

The Devouring Mother Archetype:

11 Signs & 8 Ways You Can Heal

By Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Posted on January 21, 2024
 
 



I was watching a TV program the other day, and a character referred to her mother as a devouring mother.

In the program, the mother wrapped her daughter in cotton wool. She was overprotective, invested in her daughter’s life to the point where she neglected her own, and smothered her with love. Eventually, the daughter snapped and killed her.

I found it interesting because society usually focuses on neglectful mothers. Can you have too much love? In this article, I’ll examine the characteristics of the devouring mother archetype, how to spot if a devouring mother raised you, and how to heal from it. But first, a quick recap on archetypes.
What Αre the Archetypes?

The devouring mother archetype derives from psychoanalyst Carl Jung’s Archetypes. Jung’s Archetypes are 12 distinct personalities, sharing common character traits which we easily recognize.

Humans identify with an archetype, and this informs our behavior and how others see us. Examples include the Mother, the Sage, the Explorer, the Ruler, the Outlaw and the Magician.

There are distinct groups within the Mother Archetypes:The Great Mother represents Mother Nature, fertility, and maternal instinct.
The Bad Mother is known in fairy-tales as the evil stepmother causing harm.
The Adopted Mother takes care of people around her.

So, what’s the Devouring Mother Archetype?


What Is the Devouring Mother Archetype? The Definition

“The Devouring Mother ‘consumes’ her children psychologically and emotionally and often instills in them feelings of guilt at leaving her or becoming independent.” Caroline Myss

The devouring mother wants to keep her children all to herself out of the need to protect them from the real world or stop them from leaving her.

She can feel a genuine desire to safeguard her children from societal evils and dangers. Or, she might be so insecure and afraid of loneliness that she cannot bear her children to leave her.
Overprotective Mother

The overprotective devouring mother infantilizes her children, keeping them in a permanently childlike state. She ensures her children cannot function in the adult world, leaving them reliant on her and unable to live independent lives.


Insecure Mother

The insecure devouring mother makes her children feel guilty if they dare to create a life of their own. Her children learn that life revolves around their mother, and cannot function in a world she doesn’t control.

This type of devouring mother archetype stems from a fear of being left alone. She needs to be needed and her children are the perfect candidates. She places her emotional needs above her children’s growth and welfare.

In both cases, as the devouring mother exerts more and more control over her children, she forces them to become dependent on her. Perhaps unsurprisingly, as they become more reliant on her, she relies more on them. It turns into a vicious circle. Neither party can exit.


Characteristics of the Devouring Mother Archetype



Overprotective

The devouring mother goes to any lengths to keep her child safe from harm. She might prevent them mixing with other children, home-school them, forbid them to play outside the house or attend after-school clubs. This stymies the child’s development into healthy adulthood.
Controlling

This overprotective nature can turn into controlling behavior, especially if children rebel. The mother restricts her children even more from the perceived dangers of the outside world. She exerts control over every aspect of their lives.
Manipulation

Young children are easy to control, but as they get older, they can question rules and restrictions. The devouring mother may resort to manipulation tactics to explain or coerce desired behaviors. She may say things like,

‘This is for your own good’ or ‘I’m doing this for the best.’


Over-involved

When a parent is overly involved in their child’s life, identities become blurred. The child’s achievements are their achievements, the child’s goals become their goals, and so on. The parent loses their sense of self because they’re directing all their effort into their child.
Self-sacrifice

It takes time, effort, and energy to control your child’s every move. It’s natural for a woman with the devouring mother archetype to neglect her own needs. When your child is your absolute priority, it’s easy to forget to look after yourself.
Guilt-trip

When you give up everything for your child, you can use this as another form of control and manipulation.

‘Look what I sacrificed for you. Look at everything I gave up raising you. Now, you owe me.’


Dependent

The child is the devouring mother’s world. So, she learns to rely on her child for support, both emotionally, financially, and psychologically. This puts an unnecessary and unnatural burden on the child, who should find their own way in life, not care-take their own mother.
11 Signs of Living with a Devouring Mother


You are afraid of growing up
You find it difficult to maintain relationships
You depend on your mother
You end up in codependent relationships
You prioritize your mother’s needs over yours
You feel guilty if you put your needs first
You need approval from your mother for everything
You feel worthless without your mother
You compare girlfriends to your mother
Your mother is jealous of your friends
You do everything you can to keep your mother happy
How to Heal from a Devouring Mother?

Mothers do not own their children because they gave birth to them. You cannot own another person, nor can you rely on that person for your happiness.


It’s okay to say no

You are not responsible for your mother. There is a natural order for things. The parent raises the child; the child becomes independent from the parent and so the circle continues. We have separate identities from our parents.

While it is natural to feel a sense of duty to elderly parents whose health has deteriorated, you still have your own life to lead. You cannot sacrifice yourself on the altar of a needy parent.
Get time apart

Sometimes we are too involved in a situation to see the problem objectively. You may need to step away for a few weeks or months to give yourself a chance to heal. After all, if you hurt your arm, you’d rest it to mend it. If you keep using it, you’ll only make it worse.


Set boundaries

If your mother calls every day or ‘pops’ over to visit, make it clear this is to stop. She is welcome with an invitation, and you cannot speak to her daily. Make her understand this doesn’t mean you don’t love her, you just need your own space.
Understand you can’t fill her void

Her happiness is not your problem. Even if she blames you, those are her shortcomings, not yours. You cannot be everything and everyone to her. You are just wasting your life if you try.


Find positive mentors

I didn’t have a great relationship with my mother, but when I was younger, I met an older lady who acted as a mentor for me. I watched how she interacted with her children and saw the things she taught them. It gave me a different perspective to model myself from.
Move out

Sometimes the only recourse is to move out and rid yourself of her toxic behaviors. This is difficult if you are under the same roof. She can insert herself into your life and carry on controlling you. Moving out creates distance both physically and psychologically.


Use ‘I statements’ to avoid assigning blame

It’s easy to say things like ‘You’re always on my case’ or ‘You’re so needy’. This just points the finger and apportions blame. Instead, ‘I statements’ focus on your needs and take the emphasis off blaming someone. Saying ‘I need space’ or ‘I don’t have time to speak to you every day’ shifts from blame to owning the situation.
Get therapy

Sometimes the problems are so entrenched only a professional can help unpick them. You might not change your mother’s behavior, but you can understand it more and change how you react to it.


Final thoughts

There are many reasons mothers adopt the devouring mother archetype. While it can damage the child, with help and positive role models, you can learn to grow and function healthily.

References:

Janey Davies
 
 
Sub-editor & staff writer at Learning Mind
Janey Davies has been published online for over 10 years. She has suffered from a panic disorder for over 30 years, which prompted her to study and receive an Honours degree in Psychology with the Open University. Janey uses the experiences of her own anxiety to offer help and advice to others dealing with mental health issues.
 
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Tuesday, November 14, 2023

Karma – The Final Frontier

Karma – The Final Frontier

By Jennifer Hoffman

Posted on November 14, 2023




A friendly reminder that we are in an eclipse portal that ended  on October 29 so if you’re feeling wired, tired, fried, and strung out, that’s why. The energies are intense and everything is shifting quickly and mightily. The world stage is a mirror of what is happening energetically and we are seeing so many layers of density and brokenness, a total lack of integrity, of genuine higher vibe alignment – it can be depressing. Just remember that we have to know what’s in the dark so we can create the light necessary to overwhelm it.

I wrote about the decaying 3D paradigm a few days ago, which explains what we are seeing. Not only is 3D dis-integrating (coming apart) because of 5D energy integration, but the 3D systems that support the darkest of these energies are decaying, like the rotten potato I found in my bag which caused me to think about these decaying systems. We have a visual representation of that rotting, decaying mess right now. Don’t lose hope – light always overtakes darkness.

Since I began writing this newsletter in February 2004 I have always said that we are ending karma in this lifetime and that includes our own grief and energy trauma, the karma cycles we have with our karma and soul groups, our soul contracts, and those that the earth has with us. This is an important step in our ascension cycle because there is no karma in 5D so whatever karma clearing is happening individually and collectively, it’s all part of the process. This week’s newsletter and podcast theme addresses the topic of karma. And it fits with the October theme of catharsis and November’s theme of reclamation.!

I have long suspected that I had some serious past life issues around being a prisoner, being shackled, persecuted, tormented, judged and suffering as a result of injustice, abuse of power, persecution, and control. But I had no idea, until serious health issues forced me to look deeply within my energetic and karma core for clues to understanding why this was happening in my life and understand how far back these energetic imprints go and to what extent I have lived my life through them.

For many years I joked that I must have frozen to death Ina past life because I hate being cold and I always have a jacket or sweater with me, extra clothes in my car, and am always prepared for inclement weather. I wasn’t wrong, I just didn’t know it at the time.

For the past five years I have noticed this trend in my clients too, as I can always trace present life issues to past life traumas and show them how they can be healed and overcome. And these past life issues generally come up around serious life issues that they feel very challenged and disempowered by.

I used to do past life readings 20 years ago and they were always interesting and highly correlated to what was going on in someone’s current lifetime. Every challenging theme in someone’s life today was a reflection of some important karmic issue from their past.  Here’s one of my favorites from these past life readings out of the hundreds that I have done. (listen to the podcast for details of this karma history).

In my case, some of my karmic history included a time when I starved to death in a French dungeon, where I was shackled to a wall for expressing my political beliefs. In another place which looked like ancient Sumeria, I was a powerful teacher who was enslaved by the government, persecuted, imprisoned, and eventually executed for refusing to deny my beliefs that opposed existing dogma.

And in ancient Egypt I was an imprisoned queen, on public display in a cage, shackled at the ankles and used as a war trophy to intimidate and control my people by those who had overrun and occupied my country. In these past lifetimes, the person (me) was immobilized, imprisoned, and profoundly persecuted, which are powerful karmic themes for me today.  I lost everything because of others’ jealousy and betrayals.

Have you noticed how I have become the leading voice against content theft and theft of IP? These things have been happening to me in this lifetime and most recently in my business. I speak out and act very aggressively against people who steal my content and since doing this for the past 10 years I have inspired and encouraged many of you to go after people who steal your content (which is a great thing). From a karma standpoint, having my property, personal assets, and freedoms taken from me has been a long-standing theme in my karma repertoire.

As I looked at these lifetimes that involved extreme persecution I could see myself move from anger to despair at my situation. Struggle was futile, escape was impossible, and in a modern-day insight, I realized that the only way I knew of escaping from imprisonment was to die, which is what nearly occurred with severe health issues I experienced a few years ago.

As you know, in this lifetime, I was paralyzed by a vaccine at age 5 and could not move for 2 years and did not walk for 5 years. I have also had 3 near death experiences in which I was told it was not my time to leave so I had to stay. I also had an acute case of appendicitis that resulted in the discovery of what could have been a life ending problem which somehow did not manifest or I would have died 10 years ago.

If death was my past life option to escape imprisonment  and persecution, there are other options available to me today, which is why I am still here and still alive. Once I understood the karmic core trauma issue, which is a repetitive situation around being imprisoned, shackled, tormented, and persecuted (I have recurring problems with my ankles), being immobilized or ‘imprisoned’ or paralyzed, and being silenced for speaking out, I knew what was causing the situations I have experienced in this lifetime.

So I have the karmic scenario and know the core trauma energy, now it’s time to create a different solution to end the karma and to step out of this cycle that has repeated itself so many times in my lifetimes and in my life today.

If you can relate to any of this, there is powerful healing available to you once you are able to identify the karmic cycles you are part of and create new options for your life. What’s the core issue around a karmic cycle? It’s the thing that keeps repeating itself over and over again, maybe it looks a little different each time, but it is the same kind of situation.

What I have described here is my experience of karma and its trauma. There were other people involved – what about them?

Well, that’s another aspect of karma that is quite compelling, I just looked at my energy trauma from my karma perspective. What about the people involved in the karma with you? What happens to them? Well, they come along for the karma ride and you stay with each other through lifetimes, repeating the same karma over and over again.

For example, who was persecuting me and why? What was their objective in challenging me on every level – what did they want and hope to achieve? And how do they figure into my life today?

You probably won’t be surprised to learn that my biggest persecutors in past lives are part of  my karma circle and soul group and some of them are my closes family members (parents and siblings). One of my most aggressive betrayers in a past life is a man I fell deeply in love with and wanted to marry although it never worked out. I had a great relationship with a man I worked with and realized he had a past life as a roman guard who was one of my protectors (I always liked and trusted him).

Have you ever met someone who you instantly liked or disliked, or who was hell bent on making your life difficult? Welcome to your karma!

Let’s look at some other examples and I’m going to be reading from my book ‘Ascending into Miracles – the Path of Spiritual Mastery here, from the chapter on karma, soul contracts, and soul groups. (You can hear these examples in the podcast. You can learn more about the book on my book website, jenniferhoffmanbooks.com
Ascending Into Miracles

Why is it important? Because it is the reason for your lifetime today, to experience it and to create a different outcome.

How do you manage this karma and the people who come along for the ride? Unless you are consciously aware of it, you do the same thing each time, unaware of what is happening and not seeing the repetition, and repeating the pain without realizing that you are doing it.

With awareness, you can see the pattern,  create multiple alternative solutions, and have the courage to implement at least one of them. Usually, the answer is the one thing that you do not want to do or have been resisting.

But there is a reason for all of this (isn’t there always a reason), and it has to do with ascension, transformation, transitions, and new beginnings. As Jesus said, ‘you cannot put new wine in old wineskins,’ and I don’t think he was talking about alcoholic beverages.

If we’re the ‘new wine’ we can’t step into our new paradigms still carrying our old beliefs, habits, energies, frequencies, and karmic patterns. I have often referenced the eye of the needle’ in my writings about karma and soul groups and that can refer to the biblical verse in Matthew 19 but we are not talking about camels and needles here. I think the bible verse translation is wrong and rather than referring to a ‘rich’ man, it should refer to a burdened man, someone who is carrying a lot of baggage.

How much karmic baggage do you think you can take with you as you go through the eye of the needle in your life (which is the 4D bridge between 3D and higher dimensions)?  How much are you willing to delay that journey to keep your karma commitments intact? And before you say ‘of course not’, remember you have agendas, motivation, reasons, purposes, and a whole lot of emotional energy tied into your karma. This is a very complex situation and you are not going to go down without a fight.

What do we do to release our baggage? We arrive at what we think is its core and uncover that truth, which includes the actions we repeat, our personal agendas (because we have one/many), lifetimes of effort and focus, a lot of expectations, the desire to have validation for our suffering, and more. Then we dig a little deeper to find the bigger truth, the one that lets us see the connections between every situation, relationship, person, belief, and event that we have experienced in our lifetime, uncover the buried lifetimes they are related to, and see how we have built and retro fit our lives today to  re-create them.

And if we aren’t ready to see that yet we will get a big push, in the form of a life event that compels us to really take notice, to explore those areas until we are willing to face ourselves in all of our aspects, history, and energy so we know exactly what is required to bring us back to wholeness  or being karma free.

So often we tend to simplify karma into a continuous  interplay of one upmanship where someone did something to us in one lifetime so we’re going to get back at them in another, and that is one aspect of our karma connections. But they are so much more than that too. Deep trauma, hurt, pain, and suffering demand some kind of restitution and we want to know that someone could do better so we’ll give them every opportunity to prove that they can.  Or we want a do-over to undo past actions so we’ll engage with the same people over and over again, hoping the ‘next time’ will be different. Our emotional trauma is a sordid tale of love denied, lost love, unrequited love, abandonment, betrayal, and extreme disappointment.

We are not blameless either, as we make it our life purpose to make someone see the light, change their ways, and make amends for the wrongs they caused us. In addition to our karma connections we have secret agendas, the 4 karma anchors, the 3 karma expressions, the 4 karma embodiments and the 5 karma agendas.

Karma is complicated and ending it is not that simple but it can be done and it’s time for us to consider that as an option before we dive into another iteration of karma with someone who has already let us down multiple times and will probably do so again.

It is a journey from healing to wholeness which leads to congruence and harmony and whatever is the source of our core trauma is preventing us from being ‘whole’. Karmic cycles are energy drains which use our energy, limiting our ability to expand into higher aspects and to release the density necessary to achieve new frequencies and cross over into higher dimensions.

Hidden within our core karma is how we have experienced 3D energy that now weighs our soul down with pain and fear. Like the ballast that weighs down a hot air balloon, if the balloon is to rise, the ballast must go over the edge. The choice is ours, to stay on the ground or to rise, to be in a karmic cycle or to forge a new path.


There is no better time than now to do this level of work, as the entire universe is encouraging us to complete this and move into the next phase of our ascension cycles. It’s your time and your turn, are you willing to throw off some karma ballast and soar?


Jennifer Hoffman

Thursday, September 7, 2023

True Reconciliation Means Working Together

True Reconciliation Means Working Together

By Steve Beckow

Posted on September 7, 2023


 

Adhere to Agreed-Upon Rules and Boundaries

These will vary from relationship to relationship. But no physical violence or shouting should be one of them.

True Reconciliation

As Nelson Mandella says, “reconciliation means working together to correct the legacy of past injustices.”

To exit the cycle peacefully and productively takes mutual commitment and work of the kind Nelson probably had in mind.

I emphasize “working together.”

With work and cooperation, I believe the cycle of conflict, which is the experience of countless couples with its “legacy of past injustices,” can be ended.

If we won’t do the work necessary to emerge from our own domestic conflict, how will we emerge from our global conflict?

Wishlist

Gosh, I just felt overwhelmed at the thought of rebirthing the Growth Movement by reviewing some of their major insights and conclusions.

No, that has to wait till after the Reval and I’ll hire a staff of researchers to do it.

But just as a wish list, in what we’ve been discussing around relationship conflict, I’d like to see us:

(A) Tell the truth, harmlessly but accurately, and drop the games, acts, rackets, etc.

(B) Stay away from right/wrong, good/bad.

(C) Share how we feel, how we’re impacted, and what we want.

(D) Take personal responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions, as far as that applies.

(E) Be willing to listen to feedback, try it on, test it out, and see if it fits. If it fits, own it and

(F) Adhere to agreed-upon groundrules and boundaries.

Tomorrow we conclude by looking at the process of leaving the cycle of conflict when you’re single.

Steve Beckow