How to Deal with Mean Jokes

How to Deal with Mean Jokes

9 Clever Ways to Diffuse and Disarm People

By Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Posted on April 30, 2024

 

 

I was walking with a friend the other day and she turned to me and said “God, you’ve made a real mess of your face!” My skin has always been problematic.

I have suffered from acne since the age of 13 years and even in my fifties, it hasn’t gone away.

As I’d made a real effort to cover up my acne, her comment upset me. For a moment, I was too shocked to say anything. When I finally found my voice, I told her she had upset me.

“Oh, don’t be so sensitive,” she said, “I was only joking.”

All I could mumble was “You’ve really upset me,” and I walked away from her. If you’ve had to deal with mean jokes like this, you’ll understand exactly how I felt at that moment.

There’s an element of shock; did that person really say that to me? Then you wonder how to respond. Did they mean what they said? Did they purposely intend to upset you? Were they just ignorant? Should you say something? What should you say?

How to Deal with Mean Jokes

The problem is that while these thoughts are racing through your head, the moment is passing. Often someone has said something so mean and turned it into a joke you don’t know how to respond. Or you think of a pithy comeback days after the situation is over.

Of course, I can’t give you answers or witty comebacks to all the mean jokes in the world. What I can do is give you some general tips and examples that allow you to respond with confidence.

These comebacks to mean jokes are not nasty or passive-aggressive. They put the focus back onto the person who has given you a snide remark.

In essence, we are calling out these people to face up to what they have said and not use excuses such as

“Oh, it was just a joke, get over yourself.”

Now, before I start, make sure you have considered the following:

• Did the person mean to hurt you or are they just being ignorant?
• Just how bothered are you by their comment? Are you fuming or can you let it go?
• Was it an offhand comment or directed at you personally?
• Do you have triggers that make you overreact to certain comments?
• How well do you know this person? Is this the first time you have met or are you friends?
• Are they in a habit of telling mean jokes?
• Do you feel confident enough to confront them?
• Are you in a power dynamic that makes it difficult for you to say anything?

It can be easy to jump in and start calling everyone out for bad behaviour. The problem in doing this is that we should try and weigh up each situation on its merit. Does it warrant a confrontation?

If you have decided yes, this is important enough that you want to say something, then this is how you can go about calling it out.

Use the following as a step-by-step set of actions. So, start with ignoring, then ask them to repeat, once they have repeated the comment, get them to explain it to you, etc.

So, if you have ever wondered what you should say when confronted with mean jokes, here are 9 ways you can diffuse, disarm and dissuade people from telling them in the future.

9 Ways to Deal With Mean Jokes

1. Ignore them/Don’t laugh

In any confrontation, you don’t want to jump in wielding the big guns straight away. The reason is that you may have misheard or misunderstood the joke.

Ignoring the person or not laughing at the mean joke can be an effective technique, especially if everyone else is laughing. Silence is a powerful tool because it puts the onus back on the perpetrator.

2. “I beg your pardon?”

Asking someone to repeat what they have said is also an effective way of confronting their actions. You are not saying you agree or disagree with what they have said.

However, you want clarification before you move on. Making the person repeat a mean or offensive joke takes the power away from them. And sometimes the mere act of asking them to repeat it shuts them up.

3. “Explain it to me?”

This is particularly effective when dealing with sexist, racist, or homophobic jokes. For example, I used to work for a manager who continually made sexist remarks about me in front of clients.

Things like “She would make a really good stripper,” or “If you ask her nicely, she’ll show you her body.”

By saying ‘explain that to me’ you put the perpetrator in the uncomfortable position of describing why he/she said that. Remember, you are not obligated to laugh at the joke to make this person feel better.

4. What was their intent?

The famous comedian Ricky Gervais once said there is nothing you cannot joke about. It is all about intent. What is the intent behind the joke?

For example, this is a risque joke:

A Holocaust victim goes to heaven and meets with God. God asks the survivor about his experiences in the camps and the survivor says “You had to be there”.

While some people argue that you cannot joke about something as horrific as the holocaust, we are all ‘in’ on this joke because obviously none of us would want to be there. However, if your far-right friend told this joke, their intent would be different.

Find out their intent. Did they mean to be offensive?

5. Kill them with sarcasm

In situations like these, sarcasm is not the lowest form of wit, it is a great way to deflect a situation back to the perpetrator.

For instance, if someone says “Gosh, did you get dressed in the dark?” Respond with “No, I’ve borrowed these clothes from your wardrobe.”

Or, my favourite:

“You kiss your mother with that mouth?”

6. Act genuinely surprised

If you are in a group, quite often, the best way to deal with mean jokes is to act surprised. In your world, people don’t say stuff like that.

Examples include “Gosh, what an awful thing to say!” or “Wow, where did that come from?” or “What century are they living in?” or my favourite (taken from my dad) “Who rattled his/her cage?”

This way, you draw attention to the person without confronting them directly. Hopefully, they will get the message and shut up. If not, move on to the next step.

7. Call on others for support

Again, group settings provide a degree of support. Think about it, if this mean joke offended or affected you, it is quite likely to have the same effect on others. You can look around and ask the question

“Why would anyone say that?” or “I find that totally inappropriate, don’t you?”

Calling out bad behaviour is easier when you have a backup.

8. Be direct

Quite often, the reason people tell mean jokes and get away with it is that no one wants a confrontation. As a society, we are polite and it is easier to laugh off a mean comment than question it. However, being direct cuts through the BS.

If you feel confident, you can say,

“Actually I find that really offensive” or “I’d rather you didn’t tell jokes like that” or “I really don’t like jokes that are racist/sexist/personal attacks”.

9. “It’s not funny” and I’m not being too sensitive”

People excuse telling mean jokes with replies such as “Oh I was only joking, chill out” or “You are being too sensitive”. These are gaslighting techniques to diminish your feelings.

You know how that joke made you feel. Stand your ground. Saying something is ‘just a joke’ is not an excuse. A joke is funny and inclusive. What they have said is mean and nasty.

Final thoughts

It’s difficult confronting the teller of mean jokes, but a rule of thumb is to not go in all guns blazing. Start gently and allow them to explain. If they don’t respond as you would like, you have two choices; put up with them or stay away.

References:

• huffpost.com
• wikihow.com
• psychologytoday.com

Janey Davies

 

 

Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Sub-editor & staff writer at Learning Mind

Janey Davies has been published online for over 10 years. She has suffered from a panic disorder for over 30 years, which prompted her to study and receive an Honours degree in Psychology with the Open University. Janey uses the experiences of her own anxiety to offer help and advice to others dealing with mental health issues.

 

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Your Energy is Your Currency

Your Energy is Your Currency

By Aluna Joy Yaxkin

Posted on April 6, 2024 

OUR ENERGY is our GOD-GIVEN CURRENCY. 

Energy put to action is our vote that the universe’s creative force hears and must act upon. With each intent, choice, experience, action, or reaction, we are making micro-choices that will ultimately lead to a larger world in which we, as individuals, want to reside. Everything we feel and do tells the universe what we want. But we are not here alone. We share this planet with billions of other living beings who also cast their energetic vote for the reality they wish to experience.

What we see as division and separation in the outer world is simply others embodying their unique belief systems. We, as a collective, are beginning to claim the unique pieces of truth that reside within each of us. These are our unique codes. We are evolving beyond the past cycle, where we were taught to follow a program. For sure, this process is causing great chaos as we transition from one cycle to the next. This was expected. But once we anchor our inner codes, we will finally see a new reality emerging from all our unique pieces as they merge as ONE.

We have been navigating a cognitive chaos that has been temporarily created as we break free from the past cycle. It is part of the plan in this new cycle for people to have unique views and beliefs in the world, but it’s not OK to enforce our beliefs on someone who believes differently. Enforcing our belief system on others is a dysfunctional echo from a restrictive, less evolved program from the past age where we were taught to follow. When we embrace our uniqueness along with the amazing matrix of belief systems and truths arising, only then will we see a complete picture emerge.

While transitioning from the past, we must let go of all ways we use our energy or currency that are detrimental to us or our future. Anything detrimental to the new cycle will not be sustainable in the future. We must be self-aware and make sure that we are making choices and that our motivation is based on love, not out of fear and all that fear encompasses.

Ascended Masters share . . . stay aware of the world and its issues, but do not feed these issues with your energy or life force. See any miss-creation as simply dissolving away. Consciously remove your energy from any miscreation that is anything less than love. The outdated programs from the past cycle will dissolve quickly if we take away their fuel and oxygen. All this boils down to asking ourselves if we are feeding the fear or love. It’s wiser not to feed crumbling paradigms with our energy or attention. This will only extend the timelines of global suffering.

“Don’t obsess over what’s ‘wrong’ with the world. When you fight against a fallen and rotten world, you yourself become violent and rotten inside, and you contribute to the conditions that created the violence you now witness” . . . Stand strong like a rock, illuminating the world with your powerful presence . . . Fight for what you know, not against what you hate. Your attention is your greatest blessing, so bless the world you are birthing now; do not energise a dying world with your intolerance.” – Jeff Foster

Fighting anything also only tells the universe that we feel powerless against it, and we think less than our “I AM” presence that we are. If we are triggered or upset, we are not acting from our divine self. We are glorious beings of unparalleled light. But so often, we act like victims. Victim mentality was a disempowering program from the old cycle that was used to control us. We are stepping beyond this program. So, YOU reading this now. YOU are not a victim. YOU are a master awakening. YOU are immeasurably filled with universal truth, which is LOVE. You are a powerful LIGHT that, just by your presence, the universe must comply! Let that sink in a bit.

“Ascension isn’t about escaping this reality but embodying ourselves in the here and now, in such an unshakable way, that that reality must morph around us to be able to contain our presence!” A Teacher of Masters at Bonampak, Mexico – through Aluna Joy.

Even though we know these truths of choosing love over fear, the crumbling world finds sneaky ways to harvest our energy despite our best intentions. This is primarily done through all forms of media, including social media, YouTube, etc. Even those who claim they are the truth but use dramatic means to convey this truth are harvesting your attention and your energy. This is not the light in action. Harvesting your energy is also done either consciously or unconsciously through family, friends, and acquaintances, our genetics, lineages, and contaminated ancestral wisdom from the past cycle. If you feel disturbed, upset, or angered in any way, it is not the light bringing this to you. It is an elusive trap that pretends to be light but feeds off you and me.

If any vibration is that of separation, division, fear, and drama, or if it feeds your special ego, or it plays to your kind-hearted sympathy, it is not coming from the light. It is harvesting your energy while pretending to have good intentions. This game is as old as time itself. It is not wrong that all these dark sources exist, but it is our reaction to them. Take accountability to where and why you spend your energy. Know what makes you shine and what brings you down, and choose what reality you wish to reside in. After all, it is your choice.

The universe is on our side. If we pay attention, we will see the universe will never let us stay in something we were never meant to anchor into. So there will be a lot of closures and completions coming for us and our world as we make better choices with how we spend our energy. The universe is listening to you all right now.

Global insanity will accelerate now as we begin to shift the reality of the material world. We must stay grounded and centered in the heart. Let go of all that belongs to the past without involvement, reaction, or judgment. There is no right or wrong. There are only universal frequencies. Withdrawing energetic support from anything that is not good for us is taking action from our divine power and mastery. Anything less is not sustainable in the future.

Remember, we are human beings, and we will not be able to perfect this process of starving the darkness from our minds and lives, not in this transitional time. But what is encouraged is to make sure your tipping point and that you are leaning your energy toward the path you find your soul most drawn to. Your energy is your universal currency. It is your vote. Use it wisely. Spend it in ways that feed your soul and helps you shine your unique perspective out in the world. We may not know where we’re going as yet, but I am shown we are heading in the right direction, and for this, I am so thankful.

Post note: On April 8th… we have an excellent opportunity to see and release anything that still is draining our energy. A total Solar Eclipse will pass through Mexico, the USA, and Canada. Take account of yourself during this time. Solar Eclipses are believed to bring about swift spiritual awakening, transformation, and rebirth. Solar Eclipses bring to the light the inner shadows and bring them to the forefront to be healed. Take advantage of the opportunity!

Aluna Joy

• https://www.alunajoy.com/
• https://www.alunajoy.com/2024-4-2-yourenergyisyourvote.html

 

Your Intent and Your Desires

Your Intent and Your Desires

The Beloved

Is The Teacher

Message received by Lytske

Posted on March 26, 2024

 

 

Urantia, November 12, 2006

The Beloved: “The more you turn away from the world’s noises and come within to Me, the more certain and surer I can guide your footsteps on the path of most joyful learning. I do not seek a path of ease for you, but when there is less resistance on your part, everything will become easier, never mind the circumstances around you.

In this way, your inner world will have become one of rest and therefore, you will not easily let the other world frazzle your nerves. With Me as your divine indweller, you will gain the rest you seek for your soul. This is especially true when you hand all your troubles over to Me, and trust Me enough to let the days unfold, believing full well that I am in charge, and nothing untoward can befall you that will not be for your highest and greatest good.

You can take your time – as long as you want, to learn this process because you need to have enough faith to fully trust Me, as nothing less will do.

I desire for you to be totally and completely committed to Me, so we can start our intertwining in earnest. But if you entertain the slightest shadow of a doubt, this cannot happen. I know very well that at times you will falter, and your attention will slip, for after all, you are still only human and sporadic failure is to be expected. Even you do not expect a kindergartner to master university-level material, so I do not at first expect one hundred percent dedication.

It is your intent and your desires I look for, which is easy for Me to know, for I know you better than you know yourself, and I discern from observing you that you hold great promise within your being for our future as one.

Remain in the Silence a little longer, so these, My words, can saturate your being.”

 

 

© The 11:11 Progress Group.
I am the satisfaction of your Soul – The Beloved One.

www.1111AkashicConstruct.com 

 

Your intent is both massively effective and massively POWERFUL!

Your intent is both massively effective and massively POWERFUL!

Saul (of Tarsus; Paul) 

Channel: John Smallman

Posted on November 10, 2023

 

 

 

 

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Stand firmly in your knowing that God’s Will is always achieved, and in the knowing that His Will for humanity is that you recognize that you are all One with Him eternally, in a state of wonder and exultation.  You have all chosen to release your fearful grip on the apparent reality of suffering, pain, and death, and to dissolve and dissipate the sense of dread that your egos thrive upon.  Your awakening is divinely assured, and cannot be delayed or prevented because that is not and never could be God’s Will.  Your awakening is Her Will, and it is close, so trust Her completely, and continue to set and reset your intent to be only loving whatever may arise in your daily lives or in the world around you, knowing, as you most certainly do at the depth of your being, that your intent, because it is totally aligned with the will of God, is both massively effective and massively POWERFUL!

You are presently incarnate, by your own most loving and generous free will choices, to mightily assist in the awakening process for yourselves and for all of those whose state of unreal amnesia still seems to be closing them off from any awareness of the deep inner potency of their love for God and of Hers for them.  To awaken is humanity’s divine destiny, and it is on schedule, precisely as divinely planned. You all are awakening now, even though it may seem to you that it is taking a long time, especially if you are feeling a strong sense of impatience.  Therefore, just BE . . . . . . that is all that is required of you, and allow yourselves to know that all is divinely taken care of, because that is Reality.

In the material world that you experience as humans in form, when waiting for the arrival of a future event to which you are looking forward with great enthusiasm, time can feel interminable, and if something you dread appears to be imminent and unavoidable time seems to flow much more rapidly.  However, if you can just allow yourselves to be, without expectations, and allow life to simply unfold, accepting with love whatever arises, knowing that it is always for your highest good, you will find yourselves far more at peace, and, therefore, able to Trust that God’s Will is also unfolding beautifully just as She intends, because it always does.  Her intent is always for your complete peace and happiness.  Relax into your holy inner sanctuaries whenever you have a quiet moment throughout your day and allow and invite your loving Mother to fill you with Her peace and trust so that you are reminded, yet again, that all is truly well.

All IS truly well, because that is the divine Will of Mother/Father/God in every moment.  Often that may not seem to be the case because your human perspective is extremely limited, whereas God sees, intends, and lovingly accepts every moment, knowing that all is flowing perfectly for each and every one of you as you willingly and most beautifully pursue the paths that you designed so perfectly, with Her guidance, for this human lifetime prior to incarnating.  I would remind you again that there are no accidents, everything has a divine purpose, even though it is frequently not apparent to you.  Most of you, when you look back on your lives in form, have clear memories of events that occurred that displeased or upset you, and yet, as you look back, you now know that they were valuable learning experiences, experiences that you would probably not wish to repeat, but which, with hindsight, you now realize were of benefit, even of great benefit.

Where you are right now, just being yourselves, is exactly where you are meant to be, because it is where you chose to be.  You do have and always have had free will, therefore you are always precisely where you have chosen to be, even if you find it practically impossible to believe that you could have made such a choice.  So when doubts arise, as they often do, ask for help!  Here in the non physical realms we are always available, and we respond immediately when you call on us.  We are your loving support team who made an agreement with you, before you incarnated, to watch over you during your human lives and provide support whenever you might call upon us.  We love you all dearly and honor you greatly for the courage you have shown by incarnating to assist in the collective awakening process.  However alone or abandoned you may feel, you are NEVER alone, can never be alone because there is no separation, there is only and eternally Oneness with your loving Source, Mother/Father/God.

So, as you finish reading or listening to this message, a message to uplift, inspire, comfort and remind you how dearly loved you are in every moment of your eternal existence, allow your selves to know and totally accept yourselves as the divine and beloved children of God that you all are, and release any feelings of unworthiness to which you may be clinging, through guilt or shame, of God’s infinite and unchanging love for you.  No matter what you may believe you have done that could have been or was a sinful dishonoring of God, know that God knows that in every moment you are always doing your best.  Failure to please God is impossible simply because you used your free will – freely given you by God – to experience life as a human in form, and as a human in form your knowledge, intellectual abilities, and ability to be totally loving are severely limited by your human form and the material environment in which you are experiencing life, a life that is also – apparently – severely limited by the confines of your bodies.  You are all working within a state of limitation – something that in truth is utterly unreal – to come to once more know Mother/Father/God as the magnificent infinitely powerful and infinitely loving divine Being that She eternally is, and Whom you have very temporarily forgotten in your human sense of disorientation:

YOU CHOSE TO BE INCARNATE AS A HUMAN BEING RIGHT NOW, KNOWING THAT YOU WOULD FORGET WHO YOU REALLY ARE, WHILE ALSO KNOWING THAT GOD IN HER INFINITE LOVE AND WISDOM WOULD HELP YOU TO REMEMBER HER, AND KNOWING THAT YOUR PRESENCE ON EARTH AT THIS TIME OF ENORMOUS CHANGE AND CONFUSION WOULD ADDITIONALLY MIGHTILY ASSIST OTHERS TO AWAKEN INTO THE KNOWING OF THEMSELVES AS ALSO ETERNALLY ONE WITH GOD.

Be well, KNOW that you are eternally and infinitely loved by your heavenly Father, and relax into totally Trusting in Her as you prepare most joyfully for your imminent awakening.

 

John Smallman

 

https://johnsmallman.wordpress.com/

 

 

Ritual as a Sacred Art

Ritual as a Sacred Art

Peggy Black and the 'Team'

Posted on September 21, 2023

 

 

 

We are here. We would like to speak of rituals and their purpose and power. All action in life can be a ritual of purpose and power when the being/human brings their full consciousness and intent to the act. Rituals that are created and honored always connect the many levels and aspects of the human/being to the oneness of all.

Rituals create a doorway, a passageway for your consciousness to travel. Rituals are the weavings of many realities and dimensions into a whole. Rituals that are created and honored by a fully conscious human have enormous power to transform and heal, oneself and therefore the planet.

The importance of honoring the common tasks in your life as a ritual transforms the action; they become a place of magic and unfoldment. There are many levels and aspects revealed in rituals.

Your religions of the world are aware of the powers that rituals carry and your children at small ages are taught the motions of the rituals and ceremony. Most people perform rituals by habit, without conscious thought of the deeper more significance meanings. There is an unspoken language that is invoked in the ritual.

Altars offer a place between worlds’, they are places of power, and they are portals. Your altars have been placed in churches; they have been taken away from the common people. They are controlled by the church. 

There are those among you who know and understand the power and sacredness that altars offer.  These humans create altars that are personal and altars that offer welcome so that the sacred may enter their lives. When a being creates an altar and honors the Divine with ritual there is a clear connection, an opening and a portal.

Altars and sacred places on your planet that have been honored by rituals through time, carry an enormous energetic power and presence. One can journey, travel, in physical form or energetically to these places, these sacred sites, and connect and receive the gifts that are offered.

Today in your society to most, human rituals are just words repeated without a true understanding of the magic, the calling forth that is being created. Rituals when created with a sincere heart provide the being with a link and a pathway to follow, a connection to the bigger self, the total self, the multidimensional self.

We have spoken of rituals and their importance, now we would like to offer you an expanded perception of this sacred art. An individual can begin to uplift their life and their actions by consciously creating rituals around the everyday tasks in living.

You can elevate, offer as a higher vibration the simple tasks you perform each day.

There are rituals that you can perform honoring each season of the year. Then the energy construct you have called forth will flavor the days that follow.

Your body/mind/emotions and spirit will remember the significance of the season, the qualities, and the attributes of this time of the year and will flow more in harmony. There are rituals in which you can be aware of the lunar cycles and its movement within your body. You will be able to observe the rhythms, the pull and the pulse of these cosmic energies.

There are rituals for the stages in your life, as you move through the ages and the seasons of your timeline. By honoring these passages in rituals you are able to step cleanly into the next. Create a ritual that honors the stage you are leaving by  bringing  the lessons and gifts and releasing what is finished. Your conscious actions in this ritual will embody each stage in your life more fully.

There are rituals that you can create that honors the stages of each day. A morning ritual can be as simple as a spoken prayer or you may decide to expand your ritual to include several acts that will consciously enhance this stage of your day. Perhaps you light a candle, say your prayer and bring your awareness fully into your physical form Fill yourself with the energy, the sounds and the gifts the morning offers. This is a time for gratitudes, a time for intentions, a time to connect.

Then at your noontime, be aware that you have entered another stage of the day and leave behind what is complete from the morning and step into this different rhythm and energy. Do this at twilight as the sun gives way to the stars. Create a simple ritual and bring awareness that the next stage of time is flowing with different sounds and different activities. Again before your night's sleep, create a ritual to honor the day lived, acknowledging self, releasing all that needs to be released. This is a time of forgiveness and of gratitude.

We hear your concern in remembering to do these rituals and we say this; after a short while these daily rituals will be woven into your days smoothly and they will add a new dimension to your life. Rituals assist in the full spiritual presence coming forth.

Now as you begin to see your every action as holy, your every action as a ritual, a sacred ritual, from preparing food, to your task of cleaning and bringing order to your life. This brings your full spiritual presence to each activity. By the act of creating rituals you stay more conscious, more present, and more alive with all that you do, with every action that you take. 

Rituals can be as simple as a spoken word of acknowledgement of what is taking place or as elaborate as you can imagine. Each person will find the place most comfortable in inviting more rituals into their life, their day and their actions. Rituals open and close an activity. Simple.

Rituals and intentions bring a very similar vibration into your awareness and how you interface with all aspects of reality.

A simple ritual before a meal prepares the mind/body to accept the foods offered. A closing prayer of gratitude and a simple bowed head completes the act of eating. A ritual created as you shower or bathe has great power to cleanse the energy field as well as the body. These are simple suggestions. We delight as your discover and explore adventurous ways to bring rituals more fully into your experiences.

Now we will speak of rituals which can be created as the framework to hold an activity or an event and a gathering. There are rituals for release and rituals for bringing forth. Begin to be aware of the rituals you already have in your life. Some you might call habit. Look and see how you can shift and elevate this habit to become a sacred spiritual act.

Be at Peace, Beloved. the 'team' 

 

Peggy Black

Your intentions, when aligned with God’s, are enormously powerful

Your intentions, when aligned with God’s, are enormously powerful

Saul (of Tarsus; Paul) 

Channel: John Smallman

Posted on September 12, 2023

 

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As you wait expectantly and enthusiastically for your collective awakening, continue to set the intent at least once daily to be loving in every moment, regardless of what may be arising that could be or is disturbing your peace or causing you anxiety.  Remember that anything that is not in alignment with love is unreal, even though in the moment it can seem to be extremely real.  You are experiencing an unreal state of life, a state of seeming separation from one another and from God.  There is NO Such State!  You have freely chosen to believe that that is not true and have constructed an environment in which to experience as very real the fear and anxiety that such a state would impose upon you.  It is a collective ego construct.  Your egos are a major aspect of this illusory or dream state – it is their only reality! – and therefore fear is their normal state of mind, especially as it is coming to an end.

What is unreal – anything apart from Love – cannot and does not last, it is illusory and those dreaming it will awaken, there is no other possible outcome.  Love is your nature, your only nature.  What is not of Love – your egos and all that they appear to inaugurate, institute, and authenticate – will simply dissolve and be gone as all come to the realization that only Love is Real, and that what they have been experiencing that is not in complete alignment with It never existed.  What a wonderful awakening you are bringing to fruition.  As the unreality falls away many will be amazed that they allowed themselves not only to convince themselves that it was real, but also to engage so fully with it, in spite of the enormous pain and suffering that it was delivering.

You are presently incarnate as humans by your own very loving and free will choices to massively assist in the collective awakening process.  Without your presence it would not occur.  Mother/Father/God knew that at this precise moment in time you would most certainly be ready and available to offer your assistance, and that the human collective would be ready to fully engage in this process.  This is why it is happening right now.  Yes, the human collective is awakening just as divinely intended, enabled by the collective utterly free choice to fully participate.

As you look at the world around you and are unable to be unaware of the enormous amount of pain and suffering in so many places, you can also not be unaware that your awakening needs to move forwards powerfully and enthusiastically.  You are setting and resetting the intent that this happens, and this collective intent is extremely effective.  Remember that you, each one of you, are at all times eternally fully connected to Mother/Father/God, the infinite energy field of Love in which all that has been created or will ever be created is alive, and are creatively expressing yourselves as individuated expressions of God.  Thus your intentions, when aligned with God’s – as they are right now – are enormously powerful.

Therefore I would confirm for you that the most effective and powerful way in which you can individually assist in the collective awakening is simply by being.  Yes, Just Be!  You have been told this many times, and it remains absolutely true.

Just being means to love, honor, and accept yourselves fully just as you are, and just as God does.  Let go of all doubts about your worthiness or competence, and most certainly totally refrain from comparing yourselves to others, whether you view them as more or less spiritually advanced than yourselves.  Comparisons and judgments such as these are completely meaningless: Mother/Father/God views you all just as your are – totally and utterly perfect, just as she created you.

Therefore, in being your beingness, intend to be a fully open channel through which Love flows abundantly to all sentient life forms, without any exceptions, and know that that is also God’s Will for you.

You are all most abundantly blessed and loved in every moment, and this state is incapable of change.  You ARE Love, and Nothing else!

With so very much love, Saul [of Tarsus]

John Smallman

https://johnsmallman.wordpress.com/