Release your resistance to pain and negativity

 Release your resistance to pain and negativity

By Anos, Channel by A. S.

Posted on January 1, 2025

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My dear Earth friends,

This is Anos speaking. I am an Arcturian.

If any of you know of a smurf look-alike contest, please post so in the comment section. Winning a contest on another planet is on my bucket list, and I bet I'd be unbeatable at smurf look-alike contests. I'm already blue, so I'll only need to shrink in size from a few feet to a few inches, and decide which smurf I should be. It'll be the easiest win of my life.

Alternatively, just entertaining a group of Earth children as a real-life smurf sounds fun too.

Aside from my bucket list adventures, I am also thrilled to have the privilege to share this first message of your year 2025.

Well, let's get to it.

Right now being on Earth is giving you one huge advantage and one huge drawback.

Meanwhile, us galactics have it the other way around: we have a drawback where you have an advantage, and we have an advantage where you have a drawback.

Namely, you're currently in a position to acquire great amounts of soul growth, which is what many beings and many souls value the most in the entire universe. And it's hard to even conceive of a place that's better for soul growth than Earth.

You might not care about soul growth much, but hundreds of millions of souls applied to be born on Earth and were rejected. Meanwhile, practically every soul that applied to be born among Pleiadians or Arcturians was accepted.

Very young souls are guided, as a child is guided by their parents. After that, souls are free to choose where to incarnate, with more and more options opening up to them as they gain experience and maturity. Souls are free to refuse to incarnate in places that can teach them critical lessons, but they might not be able to progress until they do.

Creation is a playground where souls are more or less free to do and experience as they wish. Souls themselves can't be wounded or unmade, except in very rare circumstances. So creation itself is sort of like a heaven for souls: souls are free to do as they wish, are free from suffering, and are immortal.

In that context, what souls typically want most is soul growth.

A huge reason why the darkness on Earth is still there is that many souls of Earth humans are asking for the situation to go on just a little while longer, so that they may wring just a bit more soul growth out of these last days in prison Earth.

So you have one huge advantage: you're getting great amounts of soul growth. And you have one huge drawback: life is incredibly tough on Earth.

Us positive galactics have it the other way around: we're typically only getting small amounts of soul growth, but then again our lives are filled with joy and bliss and happiness and connection.

Now, life on Earth is going to shift to a situation where Earth humans, too, will stop gaining as much soul growth, but will have more happiness and connection and love.

I don't predict New Earth to arrive completely in 2025.

However, I agree with Hakann's predictions that likely your lives will become substantially easier in 2025, and likely in 2025 galactics will make physical contact either openly or with select individuals. These aren't certainties, because you have free will and it depends on the choices of Earth humans, but these things are more likely than not.

In the process, your lives will become easier, and the amount of soul growth you will be able to gain will decrease.

So the conditions to gain soul growth are more favorable today, and are more favorable in the next months, than they will be for the rest of your lives.

Therefore, I invite you to take this opportunity to not just spend the next few months waiting for other people to liberate Earth. Instead, these are golden months to do your spiritual practice, to act with love towards others, to start positive practical initiatives, to actively take good care of yourself, et cetera.

Even small things can have a great positive impact. Just some kind words, or some daily deep breaths, will plant a tree that will grow many fruits.

In particular, I would like to invite you to work on releasing your resistance towards pain and towards so-called negative thoughts and emotions. After all, these are critical 3D lessons, and the time to learn them is now.

If pain is simply observed without resistance, it will pass through you, and it will not turn into suffering.

If so-called negative thoughts and emotions are simply observed, they too will pass. Furthermore, no one is actually harmed if you have a so-called negative thought or emotion. So why would they be bad? It is only your words and actions that can potentially hurt others, so it's only those that you should seek to control.

That said, I also fully understand that some of you may be exhausted. So, please take good care of yourself and rest sufficiently. And if you are exhausted, then you are exhausted, and there is no reason to beat yourself up over that. The idea that you're not allowed to rest also is just a thought that can be observed.

The good news is that more pleasant and connected and love-filled times really are coming.

The bad news is that the perfect days for soul growth really are going.

With that, I wish you a very good 2025.

And I also wish to pass on the best wishes and all the love from Tunia, Hakann, Ashtar, Tourmalayne, R'Kok, Emerelda and their families, as well as from my own family.

With love, and with my deepest respect for your steadfastness,

This was Anos

A. L.

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14 Phrases Emotionally Immature Men Use (and How to Deal with Them)

14 Phrases Emotionally Immature Men Use

(and How to Deal with Them)

By Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Posted on July 14, 2024

 

It’s a fact that adolescent girls mature faster than boys, but have you ever thought your partner didn’t get the maturity memo?

Old school ideas of masculinity can make it difficult for men to understand their emotions. We teach boys not to cry from an early age. Expressing your feelings is girly and frowned upon. This can lead to emotional immaturity.

So, how can you identify emotional immaturity in a man? Does he act immaturely when things don’t go his way? Are you constantly telling him to ‘Grow up’ or ‘Stop sulking’?

Emotionally immature men use certain phrases that reveal their level of maturity. In this article, I’ll show you 14 of the most common ones.

14 Phrases Emotionally Immature Men Use

1. “Chill out.”

Sometimes saying ‘chill out’ is necessary, but not when you’re trying to discuss an important issue. Telling you to chill out dismisses your feelings. It’s a way of avoiding conflict. Mature men can debate difficult topics. They’ll want to know why you’re upset and work towards a solution.

2. “I’m fine…”

Emotionally immature guys avoid vulnerability. Rather than tackle tough conversations, they prefer to stew and sulk. Eventually, this building resentment boils over, making a manageable situation deteriorate.

3. “I’m just being honest…”

Social interactions are nuanced and considered. Emotionally immature men don’t understand this, so they use phrases like this to justify thoughtless behavior. It absolves them of all responsibility for the other person’s feelings.

4. “You started it…”

Mature men have an internal locus of control. This means they take responsibility for what happens. They own their mistakes. They’re self-aware and recognize their faults.

Emotionally immature men have an external locus of control, which means they blame others when things go wrong. Saying ‘You started it’ is a way of avoiding blame.

5. “It wasn’t my fault…”

Just as children whine and protest their innocence when caught out, so do emotionally immature men. Owning up to mistakes makes them feel vulnerable, which causes them a great deal of discomfort.

6. “I don’t want to talk about it…”

Isn’t it irritating when someone is in a mood but won’t tell you why? Compromise is important in any relationship, but emotionally immature men are incapable of seeing other people’s points of view.

Opting for silent treatment is passive aggressive, and an easy way out of confronting tough issues.

7. “It’s not a big deal.”

This phrase is used to brush aside your feelings and move on to something less troubling. You’re being told that your emotions aren’t valid and you’re making a fuss about nothing.

8. “You didn’t remind me…”

Immature adults like to be babied or mothered. As a result, they have zero discipline because they’ve never dealt with the consequences. They need constant reminders to do the basics of living.

9. “I don’t care.”

Saying ‘I don’t care’ is the equivalent of putting your fingers in your ears and singing ‘la la la la la’. It’s probably the most childish phrase emotionally immature men use. You can imagine kids shouting it as they misbehave. It reveals a lack of empathy for the other person.

10. “You know what I’m like…”

When men use this phrase, what they’re really saying is,

‘I’m not changing this unacceptable behavior and you’ll just have to get used to it.’

This phrase usually follows inappropriate behavior. Maybe he talks in a baby voice or grabs your breasts whenever he wants, or perhaps he eye rolls or yawns in company.

11. “If you loved me, you’d…”

Love is not conditional; it involves compromises in both partners. One way you can tell a guy is emotionally immature is if he uses ultimatums like,

“You would if you loved me” or “You just don’t love me enough.”

12. “What about me?”

Needing attention is a sign of emotional immaturity. Emotionally immature men don’t know how to (or don’t want to) put others first. Everything is about their needs, to the detriment of all around them.

13. “You’re just a bitch.”

Name-calling suggests you don’t have the goods to enter a mature discussion. This impulsive behavior is typical of someone who hasn’t learned how to curb their emotions. It’s childish. As we grow up, we should learn to control outbursts as we understand the consequences more.

14. “I’ll do what I want.”

Immature men are selfish, with fragile egos, and have zero tolerance for discomfort or things they don’t like. Mature adults know that compromise is important, and you can’t always get your own way.

What Is Emotional Immaturity?

There are many ways to tell if a person is emotionally immature:

• They can’t manage their emotions.
• They put off hard conversations.
• They won’t admit their mistakes.
• They can’t work through a problem.
• They don’t know when they need help.
• They sulk after a dispute.
• They are passive aggressive.
• They never take responsibility for their actions.
• They run away from their emotions.
• They have a victim mentality.
• They dismiss other people’s feelings.
• They are incapable of listening to others.
• They have an external locus of control.
• They can’t be vulnerable in front of others.
• They are incapable of self-reflection.
• How to Deal with an Emotionally Immature Man?

You won’t change this behavior overnight; however, change is possible with patience, setting boundaries, and understanding.

Identify the origin

Most adult behavior stems from our upbringing. Growing up in an abusive household can affect the way we process our emotions. Research suggests there’s a link between childhood mistreatment and emotional immaturity.

Starting a conversation where the emphasis is on how their behavior affects you makes it less like a personal attack.

Recognize it might not be their fault

Studies show adverse childhood experiences halt the healthy development of parts of the brain that control impulsivity and reasoning. So, if you want to help your man, it’s important to understand there might be a physical cause for their behavior.

Get therapy

Couples counseling, CBT or one-to-one therapy can help reveal the causes of emotional immaturity. Of course, your guy has to recognize there’s a problem and wants to change.

Set boundaries

Just because you want to help and be understanding doesn’t mean you have to put up with unacceptable behavior. Identify the actions or behaviors you won’t tolerate, set consequences for inappropriate behavior and don’t pander to childish behavior.

Final Thoughts

Emotionally immature men don’t see their flaws, they can’t accept their mistakes, they want everything their own way and throw tantrums when they don’t get it. If you’re prepared to put in the time and effort, you can help them become more emotionally mature.

References:

• wikihow.com
• webmd.com

Davies

 

 

Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Sub-editor & staff writer at Learning Mind

Janey Davies has been published online for over 10 years. She has suffered from a panic disorder for over 30 years, which prompted her to study and receive an Honours degree in Psychology with the Open University. Janey uses the experiences of her own anxiety to offer help and advice to others dealing with mental health issues.

 

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Comfort Beliefs

Comfort Beliefs

Hakann trough A. S.

Posted on May 3 , 2024

 

My dearest brothers and sisters,

This is Hakann speaking. I greet you in peace and love.

In our culture, teenagers become adults when they reach a certain level of consciousness and awareness and maturity, and not when they have existed for eighteen years.

From my perspective, some Earth humans may have adult bodies, but I personally don’t think they are very adult. I am not arguing that you should take certain people’s rights away, or treat people condescendingly. But I am saying that it’s useful to keep in mind that just because someone has the body of an adult, doesn’t necessarily mean that they have the consciousness and awareness that you would expect an adult to have.

For example, many people assume that anyone who has the body of an adult, is a logical person who arrives at their beliefs through facts and reason. In reality, most people on Earth right now believe whatever is most psychologically comfortable. Part of that can be seen as immaturity. Or part of that can be seen as possibly-adult people being so squeezed and overburdened that they’re looking for psychologically comforting beliefs.

Some people look for comfort not because there’s anything fundamentally wrong with them, but just because they are getting squeezed right now. Or they might have had a tough childhood, but perhaps they can still heal and become more adult later in life, in our sense of the word.

So, it’s understandable that a lot of people are adopting what you might think of as comfort beliefs, which are beliefs that aren’t exactly logical or compassionate but that are comfortable for the person himself or herself to have.

What’s unfortunate is that right now, both the left and the right have comfort beliefs that make the other side feel less safe. And one side having an out-of-alignment comfort belief, actually strengthens the out-of-alignment comfort beliefs on the other side.

It’s a vicious circle: both sides have comfort beliefs that drive the other side to ever more tightly embrace their own comfort beliefs.

For example, someone on the right may have the out of alignment comfort belief: “the reason I have a pretty good life is because I am virtuous and worked hard and made smart choices. No one helped me out, I did it all on my own. Anyone who doesn’t have a good life is either immoral or lazy or made bad choices, and they deserve what they get. If someone is struggling, they should just stop making bad choices and work hard, and that will fix it.”

Now, there are some good parts of this belief. Personal responsibility is very important. And sure, making good choices and working hard can absolutely help someone build a better life. Frankly, a more moderate version of this belief would just be a good belief to have.

But the somewhat extreme version of the belief that I just shared is overly simplistic and self-serving and a bit callous. Not everyone who is struggling can solve their problems just by working harder.

If someone on the right expresses this belief, it can easily make someone on the left feel bad and unsafe, and for understandable reasons. It’s entirely possible that this struggling left-winger didn’t have as much financial support from their family, or is struggling with a health issue that the right-winger doesn’t have, et cetera.

Even if the right-winger doesn’t have something that’s easy to point to as a concrete advantage, the right-winger might just have been born with a higher IQ than average, which is actually a huge inborn advantage in itself. Or the right-winger might have been born into a stable and functional and loving family, which is another huge advantage that not everyone enjoys. If you were born with an above-average IQ into a stable family, then it’s easy to think of yourself as having had an average start, but in reality you were luckier than most.

Also, older people often don’t understand that the younger generations genuinely have it much harder in some ways.

Now it’s easy to say that the left-winger should just take personal responsibility — and in some cases, that is exactly what the left-winger should do. Personal responsibility is important.

However it’s also understandable that if some struggling left-winger sees a successful right-winger express that out-of-alignment comfort belief, that the left-winger will feel psychologically drawn to finding some reason why the right-winger didn’t actually work harder, the right-winger was just privileged. Maybe the right-winger has male privilege. Or white privilege. Or some other kind of privilege.

So this occasional right-wing comfort belief of “I’m successful purely because I worked hard, if you’re struggling then you can solve that by working harder” is actually nudging the left to embrace their own comfort beliefs. Namely: “I can’t succeed, because I don’t have male privilege. Men are so much more privileged than women. I’m a victim. I can’t build the life that I want, I’m dependent on the government to get involved and help me. Rich people are always leeches and always oppressors and are always evil extractors of value.”

But in turn, it is also understandable that if the left expresses these comfort beliefs, that people on the right will be further nudged into adopting their comfort belief. Namely: there are plenty of people on the right who didn’t have an unfair advantage, they just genuinely worked hard and contributed significantly to the real economy. And if you tell these people that they’re just evil privileged rich dudes, then you’re actually pushing them into the right-wing comfort belief we expressed earlier, of “screw you, if you’re struggling then that’s your fault and you can solve your problems by working harder.”

This is not a crazy reaction, because indeed, some people genuinely just need to take personal responsibility and work harder. But then again, if you formulate it in such an extreme way, then you’re further driving the left into their own comfort beliefs — because clearly some people can’t solve their own problems by working harder, and clearly some people actually are more privileged than others.

Other than listening to each other, what would also help is if people adopted more reasonable and more nuanced and more moderate forms of these comfort beliefs. Because it genuinely is fine to believe that hard work and personal responsibility is important — it’s just good to also be aware that some people were born into a worse situation than you were, and not everyone can solve their problems through working harder.

Similarly for the left: yes, some people genuinely were born into more privilege than you were. But that doesn’t mean that you are a helpless victim who can’t improve your own life. It also doesn’t mean that every white person or every man is automatically more privileged than you — some white people and some men were born into even tougher situations than you were. And not every rich person is automatically evil or a leech or an oppressor.

Also, even if you’re left-wing or right-wing, that doesn’t mean that you should buy into the entire package of left-wing or right-wing ideas without thinking. Try to think for yourself. Neither the left nor the right is completely correct and fair and without flaws — which is why there’s such a fierce political war in the first place.

In fact, adopting the position that your side is completely right, and becoming a political crusader with that mindset, could be seen as a comfort belief in itself. After all, that too is a somewhat out of alignment position that is nevertheless egoically pleasing and it gets you appreciation from other political crusaders in your camp.

And finally, it’s good to do your own inner work, so that you don’t feel the need as much to adopt beliefs just because they are psychologically pleasing. Although most people receiving this message are already doing significantly more inner work than the average person on Earth is. So, great job.

I very much respect that you are continuing to develop yourself and do your inner work even though Earth is so very challenging right now. You’re doing great.

I love you, and I wish you a very good week.

Your star brother,

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