When we reflect on the word romance, we usually think about it as two souls coming together to share an intimate, open, vulnerable exchange of love.
This is a beautiful way to view romance, yet it’s not complete.
That image will always leave us yearning for something from others that they just cannot give us.
It’s why most people move through life feeling as though something is missing. That need creates an inner void that just doesn’t seem to get filled.
The need to find something outside ourselves to fill that void can leave us in search mode indefinitely, as we never really feel settled and at peace.
The remedy to all of this is to cultivate the kind of romance that will give us the peace, fulfillment, joy, love, prosperity, and well-being we have always searched for.
The only kind of love relationship that will ever give us these blessings is the one we have with ourselves.
Have you romanced yourself lately, if ever? Have you taken the time to honor and acknowledge your magnificence?
Have you taken the time to love every part of you, from the inside out?
When we fall deeply in love with a partner, it’s very hard to see any flaws in them in the beginning courting stages. We only see the pure soul essence of who they are.
What would happen if we gave ourselves this same gift?
Would we be able to move out of self-judgment more quickly, and fully see our perfection? Even those parts we once believed were imperfect?
We are now in a time where we can heal all of those prehistoric, human-made beliefs about romance not being an inside job. Beliefs that say it’s selfish to love ourselves—that it’s arrogant, or not spiritual.
All of those beliefs can be resolved, healed, and alchemized now.
They have served their purpose. They’ve helped us come to where we are now, in our individual lives and in our collective consciousness.
We don’t need these archaic patterns anymore, because they are no longer aligned with the direction our world and Universe are moving in.
We have evolved, and will continue to evolve exponentially over the coming days, weeks, months, and years. We have outgrown the primal parts of us that prefer to remain in the illusions of separation and fear.
That is not who we are, or have ever been at our core. It took us forgetting who we are for us to come to this point in humanity’s history, so that we could remember again.
So, over the coming days, weeks, and months ahead, we will be given the opportunity to shed many of the outdated belief patterns we once allowed to hold us back from being our most authentic, soul-satisfied selves.
Let this be the season of you choosing to make yourself the top priority in your life.
Let this be the season you commit to loving and honoring yourself from now on, the way you have always desired a partner to do for you.
Allow the supportive healing energies coming in at this time from the celestial heavens to lift you up, so that you lovingly raise up every aspect of your emotional, mental, physical, and etheric bodies.
You deserve this! This is what the Universe/your Spirit has always desired for you to give to yourself.
If you’re ever not sure how, ask for extra support from your I AM/Spirit Self, and Source Energy itself. They are beyond ready, and able to support you.
So how do we romance ourselves?
A loving relationship with ourselves requires three simple things:
1. Complete Acknowledgment of Our Inner and Outer Self – This means we are fully committed to seeing, hearing, and giving attention to every aspect of our body/mind/Spirit.
If we are judging our body for being “too heavy” or “too thin,” we are not fully acknowledging and honoring our body.
When this happens, thank the mind for resorting to old coping patterns to keep itself safe, and imagine your body being represented by your 3-year-old self.
Embrace that child, and hold her or him in your arms for as long as needed, until you feel a softening, a peaceful sensation in your body and mind.
2. Complete Commitment to Ourselves – This means we are choosing to make ourselves the top priority in our lives. We are choosing to cultivate a daily practice that nourishes our body/mind/Spirit.
Reflect on some of the things you loved doing as a child.
Did you like to sing, paint, draw, dance, spend time in nature, play sports, build things?
Anything we love doing is a golden nugget that helps lead us back to our true self. Give yourself permission to integrate these blessings back into your life now.
3. Alignment with the Present – Although “being present” sounds like a trivial concept, it can be quite challenging for most people, because up until now we have been conditioned to live in a survival-based world.
When we are in survival, we are not ourselves. We become a shell of ourselves, living outside our bodies and the present moment.
This shell either lives in fear of the future, or dwells persistently on the past. It is never able to fully receive or be in the present moment.
Joy itself is the ability to fully receive and be in the present.
That’s why we may notice that those who meditate and spend time aligning with whatever helps them be fully present, are also happy and at peace with themselves.
Romancing ourselves includes giving ourselves full permission to align with the present, so that we too can connect with the inner joy and peace that has always been available to us.
As we develop a romantic love relationship with ourselves, something quite spectacular happens: The world around us begins to change, heal, and reflect the ways we are showing up for ourselves.
That includes aligning with a partner who loves us as fully as we have chosen to love ourselves. It includes aligning with a career path that liberates us, and allows us to express to the world the truest aspects of ourselves.
It also includes attracting to us daily blessings and miracles that affirm our feelings of connection to all of life.
And as enough of us move in this direction, our planet and the world will also heal, and reflect a new consciousness for humanity—one that operates within the freeing parameters of love.
Doesn’t that feel magical and expansive?
Now is the time for us to move in that direction. This is what the Universe desires most for us—to remember who we are, and to spend the rest of our lives honoring, loving, and acknowledging the magnificence of who we are.
Because by doing this, we are offering the Universe/Spirit the greatest honor and respect.
